Serious answer: Anyone who identifies as one.
I literally can’t pin it down more than that as there are exceptions to every rule. Same goes for a man.
No. While people have the freedom to call themselves whatever they want, I also reserve my own freedom to call them whatever the f*** I want. It works both ways. At least it should.
You can call anyone what you want. You have that freedom like anyone else. Like everyone else you can be considered a extremely rude and not nice if you dead name or miss gender.
Fair enough, but sometimes legislation is passed that makes deadnaming and misgendering illegal which it most definitely shouldn’t be.
what is a singer? a runner? a painter? Do I have to win a marathon to be runner, or can I be a runner and run a mile a week at 5mph? If you see me running that mile, am I not “the runner over there?”
Regarding your own freedom, if someone says “My name is Elizabeth, you can call me Liz, Lizzie, Liza, Eliza… just not Beth please,” and you go “Ok BETH.” - yeah, that’s your freedom to do that, you’re still an asshole.
I should be able to call a man in dress a man, without any legal consequences. Snowflakes simply shouldn’t be able to terrorize others.
Ultimately, it’s a courtesy. Like finding out if the James you just met prefers James, Jim, Jimmy, Jimbo, their middle name or a completely different one because the uncle they hate was also a James. We do this in various parts of our dealings with people, it’s part of the oil that greases the wheels of human interaction. You can chose to be discourteous but you may well find people chose to not have anything to do with you.
I want to say y’all are paranoid. But.
My wife came home one night, hammered. OK. Fuck me, she drove home?! Not proud to say, but we drank and drove a lot in those days, got a hotel or cab if we were smashed.
Next day she doesn’t remember a thing but having a second drink at the bar with the girls. Nothing else. C’mon! Could hardly believe it, chewed her out for driving drunk, she insisted she only had 2 or 3 drinks. Bullshit. Takes more than a couple of drinks for us to black out. Hell, we never got that drunk.
She got to talking to her friends that were regulars at that bar. Regulars who had the same bar tender. Same exact experiences. You add it up.
She wouldn’t report it. Because what are you going to report exactly?
Having said all this, that’s my only story on the subject. And I’ve done a lot of sketchy shit, ran with sketchy people. Date rape drugs are not as common as you might think. But they are indeed a thing.
Oh, it’s surprisingly common. There are even occasional bursts of people cutting out the middle-person and going for directly injecting people on the dance floor
It’s scary out there
(and don’t drive drunk kids; you’re risking innocent lives because you’re too cheap to get a cab. Not a good look)
Leaving your drink unattended in public spaces is a terrible idea in general.
All I know is they’re not a miserable little pile of secrets. That would be a man.