I tried chatting on some of the recommended apps on Reddit and I can confirm that none of them work.
Which bring me to the following question: How do you find people who are interested in long-term relationships online?
Note: Please donāt suggest looking in the real life.
Guilds in MMOs
Just when the guild splinters in two because a clique will fix all the problems with the old guild, always go with the new folk, they will appreciate your loyalty. At least until yāall invariably splinter again, but then youāll get new appreciation!
Met my partner in a MUD, kind of a text-based pre-MMO. He was tank, I was healer, it was meant to be.
In general, talking with people who are doing a thing you are interested in too. The way I see it, maybe 10% of people are āfriendā potential, 1% āgood friendā potential, and .1% partner potential. Youāll want to look in populations where you have something in common with the people, and thus the odds a bit higher.
Holy shit other people mentioning a MUD. Not something i expected to hear today
This isnāt so easy although it does happen. Most people arenāt meant to be in your life long-term IMHO and this typically isnāt the expectation that others will have when talking to randoms online. I met my wife on a porn site, although I wouldnāt recommend attempting to execute such a strategy for example. I recommend online activities that encourage interacting with a small group ofpeople on a consistent basis, such as a DND group, rolepaying, or perhaps writing short stories where you get the chance to know each other better while enjoying an activity that already makes you happy if you can find one.
I met my wife on a porn site
You cant leave us hanging like this, should they make it into a Hallmark movie ? Performer? was she a performer or were you, both ? Or both just fellow connisuers?
Sorry! No, weāre not performers nor especially attractive. In the interest of keeping it family-friendly we have a special interest and we connected because we were both fans of the same performer who is associated with and known for that special interest content that not many people like to enjoy. We are also avid writers so we wrote stories based on that special interest, and then we ended up getting to know each other through that writing. Writing is how we expressed those feelings that we canāt share with other people who donāt understand us as easily. After about a year of hanging out virtually I took a week off work and came to visit.
I gotta say, thatās really sweet.
Even if itās because of some 11/10 degen shit that kicked it off. Maybe especially because of it.
āIf it werenāt for my horse, I wouldnāt have spent that year in college.ā
Having reached my 40s, Iāve kind of given up on this sadly. With my work schedule and what it takes out of me, Iāve realized that Iām not that great of a friend anyhow. I can be flaky honestly. But thereās a hole inside of me that Iāve always wanted to fill with a friend, a real connection beyond typical friendship. Iām leaving that hole open but Iāve learned to avoid looking at it. Hope you find your friend.
Preaching the end of the world - Chris Cornell
Edit: probably should explain that i was listening to this song when i read your comment and the one up from yours
You can confirm none of them work? They can work. Sometimes you have to give it time. I met my wife on tinder. The thing is it takes a while. I didnāt meet the love of my life on there after a single day or week. I was on the app for a couple years. Itās hit or miss and takes learning.
Yup, I had the same thought. I met my partner of 5 years on okcupid, but it also took me years of messages/dates/flings before we found each other. Dating and finding a good match is complicated and so much of it is purely a numbers game. Online dating apps are just a vehicle to expose you to more/different people. They arenāt some binary that either does or does not work.
You have to be kinda attractive, I found my wife that way, she messaged me, thatās how we met
