I tried chatting on some of the recommended apps on Reddit and I can confirm that none of them work.
Which bring me to the following question: How do you find people who are interested in long-term relationships online?
Note: Please donāt suggest looking in the real life.
Kink dating apps seem to work well for me. Also rather than swiping on repeats and ladies that arenāt my type I block, sounds heartless but its good to have a boundary and stops mainstream dating apps from repeating the same people. personal I avoid woman who in every photo are at a club, wear brands, plastic surgery, essentially they have life styles at odds from mine. Outdoorsy, intelligent seems my type so basically donāt shy from setting boundary.
And like most other comments have mentioned, pursue your passion, if thats video game, science fiction or sports, post about it, have discussions and genuinely seek positive interactions.
You have to be kinda attractive, I found my wife that way, she messaged me, thatās how we met
I donāt know much about how to enter into a relationship online; I know people who have done it, but itās never been something that Iāve been interested in. However, many of my strongest friendships were made online.
The trick to making friends online is to not set out with the intention of making friends. Itās paradoxical, I know. What you should do is just find something that youāre interested in, find places online you can talk about them, and try talking about them. Personally I like math, so I met some friends on internet math chatrooms and forums. I like Star Wars, and I made some good friends through talking about Star Wars online.
Many such places also have a casual conversation place attached. In niche communities where you (a) are already engaging with people with a common interest and (b) thereās few enough people that you will see names and faces regularly, but enough people that the conversation never dies down, eventually youāll become a known quantity and make friends.
Guilds in MMOs
Just when the guild splinters in two because a clique will fix all the problems with the old guild, always go with the new folk, they will appreciate your loyalty. At least until yāall invariably splinter again, but then youāll get new appreciation!
Met my partner in a MUD, kind of a text-based pre-MMO. He was tank, I was healer, it was meant to be.
In general, talking with people who are doing a thing you are interested in too. The way I see it, maybe 10% of people are āfriendā potential, 1% āgood friendā potential, and .1% partner potential. Youāll want to look in populations where you have something in common with the people, and thus the odds a bit higher.
Holy shit other people mentioning a MUD. Not something i expected to hear today
Having reached my 40s, Iāve kind of given up on this sadly. With my work schedule and what it takes out of me, Iāve realized that Iām not that great of a friend anyhow. I can be flaky honestly. But thereās a hole inside of me that Iāve always wanted to fill with a friend, a real connection beyond typical friendship. Iām leaving that hole open but Iāve learned to avoid looking at it. Hope you find your friend.
Preaching the end of the world - Chris Cornell
Edit: probably should explain that i was listening to this song when i read your comment and the one up from yours
