This is the correct way to do friendships. Drag doesn’t agree with the forced intimacy of learning someone’s name the same day you meet them. Names should be shared the third time you meet someone. Of course sometimes it’s necessary to learn names earlier or later, but the default should be third.
Drag has a lot of rules Drag made up about life and society. Drag could free Drag from all these binds by relaxing.
most names are made-up anyways, and i can’t remember made-up stuff. there has to be something profound about it or i forget it
actually i have adopted a hobby of just giving people new names (yeah i know it could be seen as disrespectful but for me it’s just a normal way of doing things) and then calling them by that name. yes, it has led to confusion in the past. but it just feels like the proper thing to do. (yes you can call me weird and no i won’t take it as an insult.)
also, there’s this weird phenomenon that when i make up a new name for somebody, somehow that’s much easier to remember. and if i do forget and make up a new name again, that new name will often be the same as the first time. so there seems to be something “recognizable” or “fundamental” about it.
Can’t relate
I have ADHD (+ other stuff) and so names has always been a massive issue for me. A few years ago I just stopped trying because I don’t talk to most people anyways.
out of the ~25 people in this class with me right now (fun fact! I am breaking a law by being on my phone rn :3) I know the name of,
1: teacher
2: girl with pink hair
3: trans friend
4: person who sits next to me and cannot understand what a function is to save his life
5: someone who I sat next to in 3rd grade
The others, no earthly idea. I have COWORKERS in this class who I don’t know their name 😓
You are literally burning money. Pay attention as instructors don’t work for free
winter break starts tomorrow, I finished pretty much all my work last week. My school makes winter break start next week because of the way the semesters line up.
I was forced to spend 3 hours in the gym today watching a students vs teachers basketball game.
The most work I’ve done in the last 3 days is roll a die and draw a snowman depending on those numbers then doing math to figure out the chances of the ordering of them in AP Comp-Sci Principles lol
I appreciate the message though. I try to understand all the information I can, even if I’m horrible at Spanish 2 and English 😭
on the bright side, this is the last time I get to say “see ya next year” (I’m a senior in HS)
Enjoy winter break. If you aren’t going to college (and I wouldn’t recommend it for most people), this will be the last time you have that much free time unless you live long enough, and make enough money, to retire. Well unless you have a wealthy and generous family. Congratulations if that’s the case, you won the birth lottery!
Sorry to be such a downer. I forget there are high school kids on Lemmy. For what it’s worth I’m sorry about climate change, but that’s largely the fault of my elders and the corporations that control the government.
Register to vote!
I spent more than 4 years working in a place were I just knew the names of the 10 people immediately around me. People kept talking about person X or Y from another floor or room and I had absolutely no fucking idea who they were talking about.
So I travel all over for work at different places. I’ll start telling a story about something that happened three weeks ago to a coworker. “Oh yeah, where were you at?” Me- blank stare half the time.
Sometimes it comes to me after a few seconds, sometimes I can’t even remember which state I was in.
I used to be awful with names but I got better at that. Still below average, but better. I do have ADHD for what that’s worth.
2 things that make it a little bit easier to remember other people’s names is repeating the name of the person after he/she just said it and trying to associate with another person you know that has the same name. It’s not perfect but it’s better than forgetting every single time.
The only reason you need to know someone’s name is to talk about them behind their back.
Or to show that you paid attention to anything they said about themselves and didn’t just wait your turn to talk. You know, basic social etiquette lol
basic social etiquette lol
in other words, forced and unnatural and unnecessary behavior that is just a parasite eating your lifetime and energy
Excellent point, if you’re just 1 on 1 with someone you dont need their name except to talk about them with someone else.
I’m always terrible with names but they do come in handy
Hey,who’s working ____'s shift Thursday?
Who do I need to talk to in HR?
who makes the schedule?
Ask ___ if they can cover your shift.
Email ____ for me and see if they have a copy of that report.
Can you tell ___ to come see me.
