This is bog standard dumb stuff young people say. I’ve heard this same sentiment come out of idealistic kids for decades. How this is anything other than ignored is beyond me.
How to admit you’re in an unhappy marriage without saying you’re in an unhappy marriage, much?
I happen to think I lead something of a charmed existence with my wife and daughter lol. Took a lot of work and growth from both of us in our previous failed relationships. Our paths changed us into the people who would meet and marry well into our 30s. There was a lot of pain in that growth, both outgoing and taken. A lot of good to learn from too. We both started our relationship journey with shit like this meme in our heads. We both ended up where it looks like the cartoon princess simplicity it is.
Feel free to assume the worst about me though. Its fun
I’ve been married to my wife for 2 years, after being in a relationship with her for 6 years. Things weren’t always perfectly smooth sailing but we’ve managed to work things out. We sometimes have communication issues, which we’re working on, but at least we understand that it’s a weak point and any fights (which are hardly fights) don’t last very long.
She is quite literally my best friend, and I am so, so grateful to have her. We spend most of our time outside of work together and we never grow tired of each other. We always help each other out and cheer each other up when one of us has a bad day. Co-op campaign mode is a great way to put it.
I came out to her as trans shortly after we got married, when I suddenly realized how I felt about being the opposite gender. She was very supportive from the beginning, and although she was initially a little nervous when I started hormones, we’ve grown a lot closer and our love has grown so much stronger since I began to open up and be my authentic self. And for that, I can’t be grateful enough. Many couples I’ve seen where one comes out as trans end up splitting up, for one reason another, so I think I’m extremely lucky to have someone that can see past gender and love me for simply myself.
Lol. Kek.
The person who wrote this has not met many married people. I don’t think they ever had a best friend either.
As someone who is 15 years into the situation OP described - yes it’s somewhat of an oversimplication of how it all works… but broadstokewise it’s on the money with the right partner and mindset. Whether your marriage works this way or not comes down to how fungible you both believe your partner to ultimately be and how much you dedicate to being each other’s joy.
Thinking being pessimistic in the face of romance is just “reality” means your chances of experiencing that kind of romance become mighty slim. Optimism and trust are nessisary components to making it happen but are sadly also attractive to abusers. End of the day I wish OP the very best of luck because coming home to your partner excited to see them every day for years on end really is worth the attempt.
Yep, also had a “bad” experience recently with divorce. Still not feeling back to 100%, but I know deep down that a happy, functional relationship is just around the corner. I could meet them at any point, and if we’re true partners, we’ll find a way to be happy with eachother. It’s a little tough to remain optimistic, but it’s dramatically better than giving up and being cold and pessimistic for the rest of my life!
The best part is you don’t even have to be married to have this
