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I’m intact. In my country it’s only done for medical reasons.

My friend had circumcision performed in his 20’s because he was having trouble during sex. He later confided to close friends that it was shit; Initially he was constantly uncomfortable because of the friction of his glans with underwear, until it desensitized!! and he had to lubricate to masturbate, among other things. He also said that sex was plain and simple worse, that he had lost a lot of sensitivity, and that it took him way longer.

Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

That the US allows ritual infant genital mutilation is plain and simple barbaric.

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Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

utterly pointless insulting victims like this. stop.

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Fuck no, cause those same shitheads are totally fine with the continuation of the practice. They try to minimize the trauma to feed their own insecurities.

People who downplay circumcision can get fucked.

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Circumcision without consent and without a real medical necessarily is barbaric and needs to end.

My point is that I can’t take it back, so I choose to enjoy what I have instead of lamenting what I should have. Maybe if foregen succeeds I’ll consider that tho

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If everyone got a lucky number tattoo before they could even talk, something nonconsensual and superstitious, some people would end up liking their tattoo or not caring either way. Such a person can still find the practice wrong, horrific even. If you have personal trauma it does not justify assuming people’s positions and calling them shitheads.

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I’m not insulting anybody, I’m simply pointing out that to pretend everything is fine, is looking the other way.

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How else am I supposed to enjoy what remains of my penis?

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As a victim, I wish people had insulted previous victims so that they wouldn’t pass on their trauma to the next generation.

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As damn but how is he supposed to feel superior?

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I was circumcised in my late teen’s and had none of those issues or noticed any difference in sex other than it didn’t hurt like hell when I would cum anymore. I was left with a scar on the head and shaft from where they had to cut the string thing that connected the two. It might be because the head of my dick was already fully exposed when flaccid and uncomfortably so when erect. I still remember the first stringy bit tearing the first time I had sex, hurt like a mf. After a few more times I got the courage to ask my mom, who I had a poor relationship with, to take me to the doctor which resulted in them performing the operation to remove the much thicker, comparably, stringy bit that connected the head to the shaft.

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From that description, it sounds like you were circumcised at birth, and then had your frenulum removed later.

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My mother said I was not circumcised as a baby but it’s nothing I talked to her about again and I suppose she could have been lying.

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Also consider that if it’s all you ever knew, you might just be trying to make the most of it, without defending the practice.

Sex feels great to me, I wish I was uncut, and I would never circumcise my son if I had one.

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I nearly died the first time I had sex because a surgeon in california botched a circumcision my parents had done. they’re not jewish, just evangelical christian.

he severed some nerves so I basically have no feeling except at the base. Basically, I can’t get off from vanilla sex… and uhm… those warnings on viagra commercials about erections that last longer than 3 hours? yeah. uhm. they’re serious.

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That’s bonkers, St Paul repeatedly talks about how circumcision isn’t a thing Christians need to do, even rebuking those who said it was: Gal 5:12.

https://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?quicksearch=circumcision&version=NIV

especially 1 Cor 7:19 “Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts.”

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there was also a fad where medical professionals were suggesting that not circumcising might lead to hygiene issues later. parents claimed that’s why they did it. I don’t think that’s the whole truth, particularly when they were talking about my nephew when he was born. “Excuse me. I can’t have sex because of that procedure” made for a very awkward moment at the dinner table.

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You can thank Mr Kellogg the cereal guy for why ameicans love circumcision. He was a conservative Quaker weirdo

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That’s not a circumcision related thing.

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What on Earth do you mean?

Ofc it is.

They don’t have regular feeling in their dick because of genital mutilation, so they did a ton of Viagra, which they wouldn’t otherwise have needed.

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In this case it seems to have been since it was a botched circumcision that caused it.

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Yes.
The doctor that refereed teenage-me to a specialist, or the specialist, or the second specialist that we went to for a second opinion.

yeah. they totally don’t know what they’re talking about.

FWIW, Mohels (the jewish individuals who perform the B’rit Milah) take far less of the foreskin; and it’s “generally” a “safe” procedure. The surgeon that performed mine fucked up and covered the fact up.

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Oh. I assumed you meant as a baby. I guess this is a rare reason to have this done as a baby.

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I just did it for the looks

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How are you healing?

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I didn’t get an infection

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Needs to be cross posted in shirtsthatgohard (idk how to link stuff in lemmy)

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Don’t worry someone’s posted it like 8 hours ago.

https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/c/shirtsthatgohard@lemmy.world

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nice 🤌

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Are we not doing consent anymore? I thought everybody was onboard with consent?

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Being born and alive means you just automatically consent to things in life whether you like it or not. But this should not be one of them.

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I disagree that you can give consent without knowledge.

You can be obligated by your existence, or your culture, or your circumstances, but it does not mean you consented.

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Consent by any other name is still consent.

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Nah. It means you are forced into things without your consent. The world isn’t always going to ask if you want something or not. It’d be unreasonable to expect it to. But you should ask for consent before surgically removing part of someone’s dick

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In case you missed it, I originally did say that circumcision should require consent. But sadly, being a newborn male, (and sometimes female in certain places and cultures), just means you consent to some things automatically just by existing and being there.

Now, whether that cultural opinion is right or wrong or fair is a whole 'nother argument.

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If we had kids consent to everything, no kids would go to the doctor for any reason. Obviously parents substitute for kids when it comes to consent, with various things that simply aren’t allowed in any case like sex and starvation. Should circumcision be one of those things? Well I guess that’s the debate.

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