Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is itâs still taboo to be a âmanâ and have emotions.
Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions⌠She acting like women donât require the same thing? Gtfoh. Itâs not even a bad thing. Itâs just a human thing.
What sheâs referring to isnât the same as having emotions. She means the people who expect everyone around them, especially their romantic partner, to manage their emotions for them. Plenty of women do it, too.
I donât know anyone like that. I do know we are plenty of people who are drama queens.
But thatâs not really the same thing as having emotions people with functional emotions are actually fine, itâs the ones that donât have emotions but do have an awful lot of opinions that are the problem.
one of the main points and benefits of a relationship is being able to share problems with someone else and have someone that could cheer you up or to share excitement with
âemotional laborâ is for actual jobs, especially customer service type jobs
This is not about having emotions or talk about them. Itâs about expecting your partner to navigate your emotions for you. If you donât know what emotional labour is, you probably were lucky enough to never have to be in a relationship with someone who expects that from you.
Sheâs referring to overly emotional men, who need extra attention; guys who canât handle failure or rejection, who have a bad day at work and then canât help around the house at all at night and who expect their partner to take care of them, regardless of how their partnerâs day went. I know the type of dude sheâs talking about and I wouldnât want my daughter to bring one home. Dude needs a mother not a partner.
Nope this is a list of all the men available, like she said. Sheâs painting all emotional men with the same brush. There are good men and bad men in each of those categories she listed, but she thinks weâre all bad.
So I cry and need a hug sometimes? Emotional labor. I can describe the full range of emotions I feel to a partner and deal with them in a healthy way? Gross.
You have a victim mentality. You are looking for this stuff and youâre finding it. The post does not say that.
âAs we seek so shall we find.â
So she wants a guy with a low sex drive, who she doesnt have to have any emotional attachment to, but who emotionally invested in her, that doesnt have any self confidence, and doesnt know any feminist theory so he cant tell heâs in a toxic relationship and doesnt treat her like âshitâ (an equal)
Sounds like sheâll shout: âworship me as I am your goddessâ and âI demand tributeâ on a regular basis.
Hmm I think you might be some of the red flags sheâs talking about especially the manipulative one.
She literally said she doesnât want a guy who is sensitive and doesnât want a guy who is emotionally distant. Make it make sense.
Well then thatâs because you had a READING FAIL or youâre playing syntax argument and pretending that youâre confused.
Of course It wouldnât make sense if you stopped reading after the first two words out of two entire sentences. Each point had descriptions but youâre ignoring them just to launch into a pitchfork argument. This is âSyntaxâ argument. Thatâs some bad actor energy right there at worst. red herring argument at best.
So youâre Confused? Go back and reread for more than two words per line. Sound it out loud if youâre still âconfusedâ. Talk to an English teacher if need be.
But personally I donât believe you are confused. Not today, lil incel. Ya blocked.
Well, if weâre generalizing THAT much, the dating pool for guys is just as bad.
Weâve got:
-women who will go out with you just for a free dinner date, then never talk to you again
-women who are looking for sugar daddies
-women obsessed with their socials (IG, TikTok, etc)
-women so unnatural you question they can still be considered human (lip fillers, butt lifts, boob jobs, have you ever heard of the term âBimboficationâ?)
-all of the above
In reality, there are so many more people in this world that donât fit any of these categories on the men or women side. Itâs just that a lot of the âdating poolâ sheâs talking about is centered around dating apps. The real world is so much more diverse.
Your forgetting the âI have sexâ girl.
Having sex is basically her whole personality.
I was with a girl in her room and when she started teaching me about astrology, I just bursted out laughing with how dumb it was. Basically, what you just said before but 10x worse with this girl, there were rocks fucking everywhere. Iâm suprised Hank from Breaking Bad didnât show up.
So sheâs complaining about sensitive guys, but also doesnât want them to be emotionally distant.
Basically wants the guy to do the âemotional labourâ but not do any herself.
How to phrase thisâŚ
Womenâs behavior towards menâs emotions is likeâŚitâs their very very favorite TV show, but they hate almost all of the episodes. They want you to be emotional, they want you to be in touch with your feelingsâŚuntil you actually do, and she throws the remote through the screen because itâs not one of the very few episodes of this show that she likes.
There are words I just donât say out loud in any context anymore because of this. âLoveâ is one of them. One of my exes would throw a three act opera of a shit fit if I said something like âI love jalapenos on pizzaâ because âYouâll say you love PEPPERS but not ME!â Well yeah, Tiffany; 1 because the word has different meanings when applied to food vs applied to a person, and 2 weâve been dating for five weeks at this point; Iâm still in the stage of trying to determine if youâre sane enough to get serious with, and early exit polls arenât looking very promising." So I say things like âI really enjoy jalapenos on pizzaâ and I sound like a cyborg but Iâm not sitting through another fucking meltdown like that.
Emotional Labor is for the individual to do. If you feel like you need help, thatâs what a therapist is for. Do you expect a gf to be your therapist? Sharing and expressing feelings is a normal part of a relationship, but expecting your SO to also be your own personal therapist is completely unhealthy. Everyone has their own emotional Labor to do, why should anyone else (whoâs not a therapist) be expected to do yours?
Relationships are emotional labor on both sides