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Well, if we’re generalizing THAT much, the dating pool for guys is just as bad.

We’ve got:

-women who will go out with you just for a free dinner date, then never talk to you again

-women who are looking for sugar daddies

-women obsessed with their socials (IG, TikTok, etc)

-women so unnatural you question they can still be considered human (lip fillers, butt lifts, boob jobs, have you ever heard of the term “Bimbofication”?)

-all of the above

In reality, there are so many more people in this world that don’t fit any of these categories on the men or women side. It’s just that a lot of the “dating pool” she’s talking about is centered around dating apps. The real world is so much more diverse.

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How about “astrology and crystals are my personality”

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I was with a girl in her room and when she started teaching me about astrology, I just bursted out laughing with how dumb it was. Basically, what you just said before but 10x worse with this girl, there were rocks fucking everywhere. I’m suprised Hank from Breaking Bad didn’t show up.

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Jesus Christ Marie, they’re minerals!

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Your forgetting the “I have sex” girl.

Having sex is basically her whole personality.

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Those women are the worst. Where do they hang out so I can avoid them?

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Well, that post is a straight flush of red flags.

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Thinking that someone else having emotions is work is definitely a major one.

Also I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do, if I’m emotional I’m bad, if I’m cold and distant I’m bad, what she want?

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She wants you to be emotionally available for her, but not to be emotionally available for you. Avoid these people, men or women, for anything you’re not absolutely forced to.

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Relationships are emotional labor on both sides

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What are “emotionally distant manipulators?” Some sort of emotionless man that tricks women into sex? Is that not the same as the sociopath?

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Pretty sure that means people who pretend to be emotionally involved with you but they actually are not. For example someone who says they are in love with you, but they actually just want any partner for sex or a superficial relationship.

These partners tend to postpone consequential decisions like whether or not to move in together, or family planning, etc. with excuses. They do not care their partner looses time waiting for them on a decision they don’t really intend to make.

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Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is it’s still taboo to be a “man” and have emotions.

Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions… She acting like women don’t require the same thing? Gtfoh. It’s not even a bad thing. It’s just a human thing.

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What she’s referring to isn’t the same as having emotions. She means the people who expect everyone around them, especially their romantic partner, to manage their emotions for them. Plenty of women do it, too.

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I don’t know anyone like that. I do know we are plenty of people who are drama queens.

But that’s not really the same thing as having emotions people with functional emotions are actually fine, it’s the ones that don’t have emotions but do have an awful lot of opinions that are the problem.

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This is not about having emotions or talk about them. It’s about expecting your partner to navigate your emotions for you. If you don’t know what emotional labour is, you probably were lucky enough to never have to be in a relationship with someone who expects that from you.

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She’s referring to overly emotional men, who need extra attention; guys who can’t handle failure or rejection, who have a bad day at work and then can’t help around the house at all at night and who expect their partner to take care of them, regardless of how their partner’s day went. I know the type of dude she’s talking about and I wouldn’t want my daughter to bring one home. Dude needs a mother not a partner.

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Nope this is a list of all the men available, like she said. She’s painting all emotional men with the same brush. There are good men and bad men in each of those categories she listed, but she thinks we’re all bad.

So I cry and need a hug sometimes? Emotional labor. I can describe the full range of emotions I feel to a partner and deal with them in a healthy way? Gross.

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You have a victim mentality. You are looking for this stuff and you’re finding it. The post does not say that.

“As we seek so shall we find.”

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one of the main points and benefits of a relationship is being able to share problems with someone else and have someone that could cheer you up or to share excitement with

‘emotional labor’ is for actual jobs, especially customer service type jobs

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They mean something else though, which is having a partner who expects you to do all introspection and relationship management for you. I guess a lot of men did not have such a partner, because it is more common in men to expect this from their partner.

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