Well, if weâre generalizing THAT much, the dating pool for guys is just as bad.
Weâve got:
-women who will go out with you just for a free dinner date, then never talk to you again
-women who are looking for sugar daddies
-women obsessed with their socials (IG, TikTok, etc)
-women so unnatural you question they can still be considered human (lip fillers, butt lifts, boob jobs, have you ever heard of the term âBimboficationâ?)
-all of the above
In reality, there are so many more people in this world that donât fit any of these categories on the men or women side. Itâs just that a lot of the âdating poolâ sheâs talking about is centered around dating apps. The real world is so much more diverse.
I was with a girl in her room and when she started teaching me about astrology, I just bursted out laughing with how dumb it was. Basically, what you just said before but 10x worse with this girl, there were rocks fucking everywhere. Iâm suprised Hank from Breaking Bad didnât show up.
Your forgetting the âI have sexâ girl.
Having sex is basically her whole personality.
Well, that post is a straight flush of red flags.
Thinking that someone else having emotions is work is definitely a major one.
Also Iâm not sure what Iâm supposed to do, if Iâm emotional Iâm bad, if Iâm cold and distant Iâm bad, what she want?
Relationships are emotional labor on both sides
What are âemotionally distant manipulators?â Some sort of emotionless man that tricks women into sex? Is that not the same as the sociopath?
Pretty sure that means people who pretend to be emotionally involved with you but they actually are not. For example someone who says they are in love with you, but they actually just want any partner for sex or a superficial relationship.
These partners tend to postpone consequential decisions like whether or not to move in together, or family planning, etc. with excuses. They do not care their partner looses time waiting for them on a decision they donât really intend to make.
Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is itâs still taboo to be a âmanâ and have emotions.
Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions⌠She acting like women donât require the same thing? Gtfoh. Itâs not even a bad thing. Itâs just a human thing.
What sheâs referring to isnât the same as having emotions. She means the people who expect everyone around them, especially their romantic partner, to manage their emotions for them. Plenty of women do it, too.
I donât know anyone like that. I do know we are plenty of people who are drama queens.
But thatâs not really the same thing as having emotions people with functional emotions are actually fine, itâs the ones that donât have emotions but do have an awful lot of opinions that are the problem.
This is not about having emotions or talk about them. Itâs about expecting your partner to navigate your emotions for you. If you donât know what emotional labour is, you probably were lucky enough to never have to be in a relationship with someone who expects that from you.
Sheâs referring to overly emotional men, who need extra attention; guys who canât handle failure or rejection, who have a bad day at work and then canât help around the house at all at night and who expect their partner to take care of them, regardless of how their partnerâs day went. I know the type of dude sheâs talking about and I wouldnât want my daughter to bring one home. Dude needs a mother not a partner.
Nope this is a list of all the men available, like she said. Sheâs painting all emotional men with the same brush. There are good men and bad men in each of those categories she listed, but she thinks weâre all bad.
So I cry and need a hug sometimes? Emotional labor. I can describe the full range of emotions I feel to a partner and deal with them in a healthy way? Gross.
You have a victim mentality. You are looking for this stuff and youâre finding it. The post does not say that.
âAs we seek so shall we find.â
one of the main points and benefits of a relationship is being able to share problems with someone else and have someone that could cheer you up or to share excitement with
âemotional laborâ is for actual jobs, especially customer service type jobs