I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. Itās to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people Iāve met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?
Iām a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say Iām slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.
Maybe stop wearing that š shirt.
My buddy got a pineapple tattooed on his arm that appears upside down when his arm hangs down. He was not aware of the meaning it carried. š
An upside-down pineapple specifically signals that someone is a swinger or is looking for swinger parties. This association likely stems from the fruitās historical connotations of wealth and welcome, evolving into a discreet way for swingers to identify each other in public or at events. Displaying a pineapple, especially upside down, can indicate an invitation to join in on swinging activities or parties
TIL
Didnāt you think it was weird, that she would go to āplay golfā, but never bring any clubs?
Oh my god, I have a pineapple shirt, love pointing it out to people because I find it exciting. I just like it because I think itās silly (I have a lobster shirt too). This explains some things.
Itās 2024, people are more open minded to things that arenāt cis monogamous relationships, and you may just be seeing the results of that as a āslightlyā above average attractive man.
P.s. you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable. It takes balls to ask a George Clooney type for a 4 way.
Itās 2024, people are more open minded to things that arenāt cis monogamous relationships,
This has been going on since like 2006.
you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable.
I think this might be it. Iāve had friends that meet several women every time they go out, so I know theyāre seen as attractive. I have never received the type of attention they have, but I have had ex partners, friends, and acquaintances give me respectful compliments.
I mean thatās actually right on point for biblically founded ideologies. Historically in the judeo-christian faith. It is expected that you were to take over the marriage of your brother if your brother died.
For me itās happened twice overtly and I suspect once that didnāt become an explicit request. Iām vocally monogamous, Iām not very social, and Iām still kinda young so I feel like those numbers are pretty high. For me I feel like itās how I present myself and act, which is pretty stereotypically āqueer.ā Once that gets picked up on by other couples I think they seem more interested.
Ooh! This might have something to do with it. I donāt make any effort to be extra masculine (a bro). And, if I feel like doing something feminine, I do it. Sometimes I do something feminine just to prove a point.
Disclaimer: Iām using masculine and feminine stereotypes prescribed by dominant hetero-normative culture. I donāt really believe in those things like that.
When I was late teens and early twenties, I kept getting propositioned by gay guys. It started to bother me - Iāve never been in any way homophobic, but Iāve also never been attracted to men - and I started to worry that there was some vibe I gave off that made people think I was gay.
Then I mentioned it to a gay guy who I knew, and he said that the vibe I give off is of someone who isnāt judgemental and who wouldnāt react badly to being asked. Maybe thereās something similar or analogous to your situation.
Edit: propositioned, not preposition
What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?
Probably
As far as physical attractiveness, I would say Iām slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.
Although, I was considered handsome as a younger man, and Iāve never been propositioned by swingers. I guess my attitude might have had something to do with that. I was a bad boy, and generally trouble. I did get propositioned by gay men a lot. Idk whatās up with that.
