I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. Itâs to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people Iâve met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?
Iâm a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say Iâm slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.
Ooh! This might have something to do with it. I donât make any effort to be extra masculine (a bro). And, if I feel like doing something feminine, I do it. Sometimes I do something feminine just to prove a point.
Disclaimer: Iâm using masculine and feminine stereotypes prescribed by dominant hetero-normative culture. I donât really believe in those things like that.