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Oh man a couple months ago I had to back off a topic because my therapist was obviously about to cry and just barely holding it together… I’m trans and was talking about my worries with how the US is going. They have trans kids and I think my concerns were hitting close to home for them. It was a difficult session for everyone x.x

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69 points

Did you recommend going to therapy to your therapist?

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In some countries it’s actually required for therapists to periodically see a therapist. To avoid getting retraumatized by their patients trauma and such

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23 points

Sounds like a pyramid scheme.

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Unironically a good idea. I saw a lot of therapists as a kid, and many of them were more fucked up than I was.

I had one trying to help me “recover” memories of CSA by vividly describing her own experiences of CSA. 80% of the therapy I do now is to recover from therapy then.

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Just ask her how she feels, then charge her $200

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110 points

I’m stuck at the tutorial boss (“how does that make you feel?”)

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“And where do you feel that in your body?”

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To this day I don’t understand this. My therapist used to ask this so many times and every time I was like:?? In my brain??? Where thoughts and feelings live???

Can someone explain?

Edit: the fact that you nice people here were able to make me understand this question and my therapist did not reinforces why I stopped going!

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I think we sometimes tend to forget that our physical brain lives in a physical body, and the “abstract” thoughts and feelings we experience are very much physiological processes as well. The question aims at reminding us of this fact, drawing attention to any potential psychosomatic responses your body might exhibit to strong emotions. It is easy to repress awareness for these, so to me it makes sense for the therapist to try and dig a little deeper. They’re not doing it to annoy you, they’re trying to help you become aware of (or be more mindful of) your feelings and how they affect the physical body that is experiencing them.

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There’s definitely some physical manifestations of your strongest emotions. Strong feelings of fear or anger trigger musclular reactions in your belly, strong feelings of anxiety or tension in your neck, love and contentment in your chest, etc.

Perhaps they were trying to find those physical connections to gauge the emotion or intensity?

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It’s the physical manifestation thing. It also helps you try to be more mindful of your feelings. For instance, if you normally feel anxiety in your jaw, and you find your jaw tightening again in whatever situation you find yourself in, you might see if you can slow down and think of your next steps. Why am I feeling anxious? Should I take a break?

This only really made sense to me for the emotions that I strongly felt physically, like anxiety so bad I would get tunnel vision. For smaller physical reactions, not so much.

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My therapist asked me this on some occasions. Part of my problem is to realize and acknowledge how I’m actually feeling.

“In my brain” was never the answer, when she asked that, I always felt different parts of my body.

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I was always annoyed by this question for the same reasoning. However, as another person already said, you can sometimes feel it in some part of the body. When feeling bad, it feels like pressure in my stomach, there a a few other.such connections. Now I find it somewhat useful as part of mindfullness.

I do still get annoyed when asked this question, partly because whenever he asks the question i do not feel it anywhere, also it seems irrelevant. But the main reason is probably defiance that this seemingly stupid question of him was sensible all along. So much I had to write this response.

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10 points

“Show me on this doll…”

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unironically sat 2 hours in pure silence because there were no other inputs from both sides. so i rather just sit the silence out in isolation

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I did this too! Started out as a “test” or temper tantrum, but afterwards it felt so safe he didn’t start talking, that it really was a space where I was in control.

Stupid clever therapist.

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sounds positive, glad it helps you. my message was more resignation based ^^

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One of big hurdles with therapy is finding a therapist that won’t gaslight me with capitalist propaganda when I express political or career angst. Being well adjusted to an insane system is not the goal I’m looking for.

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This really depends on where you are located and what degree/license the therapist has.

For example, I’m a licensed clinical social worker in the Denver metro area. I got a ton of education on the issues of power, oppression, and privilege in grad school. All my colleagues are aware of those issues and would fully support you in your view.

But go South, and it becomes harder to find a therapist who is aware and won’t push god and religion on you.

In general, if you want more anti-capitalist therapists, lean towards social workers and check out the https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/ directory.

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Going to therapy to hear that you need god in your life… Omg

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Yup… happened to my friend who lives in Mississippi, and a few of my clients. One person was raped by their church camp counselor, but that didn’t stop their former therapist from suggesting religion. I honestly don’t understand how someone can be so tone deaf.

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Hey thanks for the input, this helps!

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You’re welcome!

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6 points

In terms of therapy, what are you looking for?

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lol I have absolutely had sessions like that with my old therapist after explaining why I’m so panicky sometimes, because I understand at a nuanced and historically informed level what’s happening at a political and geopolitical level here, and all of my bleakest predictions keep coming true

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It would be really helpful for the depression if I could stop being proven terribly correct every single time anything happens.

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Right?!?!?

I am so, so deeply sick of telling so many people “I fucking told you so”. My dad is among the most frustrating of these.

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I know what you mean. I largely predicted what is happening now back in 2015, and in this case it was my husband, not my therapist, who told me he believes “the system of checks and balances won’t allow it to happen.” He is an optimist and wanted to believe the US was still a good country. He now agrees with me and gets sad and angry any time something new and horrible happens.

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Same, and around the same timeframe.

I never thought that being a history and current events enthusiast would become such a curse. This is some monkey’s paw bullshit :(

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I understand at a nuanced and historically informed level what’s happening at a political and geopolitical level here, and all of my bleakest predictions keep coming true

Let’s test this: Make some specific predictions for various points over, say, the next 5 years (start near future and work your way out). Put them somewhere where they can remain generally fixed but available (say on a pastebin or lemmy post or something). Then come back to look at them after those times have past and see how accurate you are. This would let you see your actual rate of accuracy as opposed to just the ones that stand out because they ended up true), which would ideally lessen your panic or alternatively if you really are getting it right in a consistent fashion we can start calling you gravitas_deficiency the Bleak Prognosticator.

For example just glancing at your profile one you seem to be doubling down on a lot recently is that there will be either no US presidential election in 2028 or no peaceful transfer of power in January 2029. That is easily verifiable in four years time. How do you imagine this will happen? Is it enough to satisfy this if the election happens and the GOP wins with a non-Trump candidate? Do you think opposition to the GOP will simply be made illegal? Do you think they will push an amendment to let Trump run again? Do you think Trump will just run again regardless and argue that the Constitution doesn’t apply to him because seemingly no other law does?

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So if you lose therapy … you’re going to need therapy for that

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No , then you become a therapist.

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I think if you lose therapy, The witnesses will need therapy.

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