Go out, and meet some real women, and youll find not a single one of them is the same.
I do have women friends at work. But dating culture is non-existent and dating apps are shit.
Dating apps are shit, as well as dating culture. I have a theory although its not really backed up by a lot of hard evidence.
Dating culture and dating apps, are not for dating, they are for sex. Anyone whoās trying to use them for finding someone to build a meaningful relationship, is going to have a horrible time, full stop. You are likely to run into horrible expectations and a fun new way to end relationships, ghosting.
When I think about trying to find people to build relationships with, as an adult, we need to understand we are all busy people. We dont have time specifically to set aside to just making friends. This is why so many relationships start at the workplace.
So the idea is to take the stuff you like to do, and go do a social version of that. Over time youll make friends with people there, and very likely one of them could be a romantic partner. This is also why sometimes the advice to work on yourself instead of chasing other people, works out for the best.
One last thing, if you are male looking for a female, please understand from their perspective they are getting essentially scammed constantly on those dating apps. They also have to be afraid of being physically hurt on top of it all. Women may be correct to be wary of any men who are trying to get closer to them, even if its just at first.
Whatās your alternative to dating culture then? Arranged marriage system? š
Like I said, focus on a social version of your hobbies. Even things you might do alone in your home, I guarantee you that people like to get together physically and do that thing, or virtually to at least talk and learn together.
Its hard to give specific examples for you but say you like to do some sort of arts and craft, or some form of excercise, then youād find a social space around that and start participating regularly. You would primarily focus on the thing you are doing but a secondary focus would be slowly building relationships with those in your group.
It doesnt take long being around someone before they feel they know you well enough to feel safe doing other things or even more intimate things. Youll also be sure that the people in the group have at least something major in common with you.
Maybe you could explain why you think thats a worse choice than playing the lottery on dating apps/sites?