Lol girlfriend ASMR. That’s more pathetic than just hiring a sex worker for a girlfriend experience. While this is most likely fake and gay, guys like this exist. They seem to not understand that you can’t go from zero social contact with women for decades to having a girlfriend instantly.
I dated a camgirl for a while, (insert “itS not DatIng if yoU’Re pAyiNg Her” joke here,) and she always said some of her saddest regulars were the ones who clearly just wanted a pretty girl to pay attention to them for 15 minutes. She always joked that she was cheaper than therapy, because probably a quarter of her regulars were dudes who just didn’t know how to talk to women, and had resorted to paying one to talk to them for a while.
She didn’t mind carrying the conversation because she was sociable, but it did end up leaving her feeling pretty depressed after a while. It’s one of the biggest reasons she ended up leaving the industry. There were some that didn’t even necessarily want her to undress, because it broke the “this is just a fun casual conversation with a pretty girl, and totally happened naturally like a meet-cute” illusion for them. Because having her undress would just remind them that she’s a paid worker who is only talking to them because she’s on the clock.
It seems to be the actions of a heterosexual so I’m not sure what you think is ‘gay’ about it. Can you explain?
I googled girlfriend asmr and honestly it’s pretty cringe, the primal part of me really does wanna bully this dude. But I set that part aside because I try not to be an asshole for no reason, as it does not benefit anyone including myself. Even if we reflexively think these thoughts due to society and upbringing, we don’t have to give into them, much less spend real time introducing more negativity into the world by voicing them.
I grew up in Texas with very traditional masculine bs. Some part of me would read what I just said and think “what a pussy”. But I promise you I’m much happier now that I’ve learned to set the negativity aside, and I like to think I make fewer people feel bad regularly. There is no downside to this because, well, there’s no real benefit to shitting on people who aren’t hurting anybody.
Forgive me for prying, but Im real curious about this “primal” part of your brain. Might be being autistic, or a woman, or both, but I’ve never experienced anything even analogous
It’s pretty simple, putting someone else down makes you feel powerful. That’s really all there is to it. It’s the same kind of thing kids do when they kill random bugs they find, they’re asserting their power over them.
I know nothing about you, but there are probably analogues in your life as well:
- bragging about a good score in school
- comparing how many books you’ve read vs others
- comparing your income to someone worse off
Basically, you want what you have to feel better than what someone else has, because that means you’re “better” in some way. It’s just pride at the end of the day, and not a constructive form of it since you usually feel worse afterward.
Support your brothers instead of tearing them down. Let them know that their worth is more than how many women they attract.
