Share some activities youâve been interested in doing but couldnât do because youâre closeted.
Transmasc, Transfem, Nonbinary, and Gender Non-Conforming answers are all welcome and encouraged here.
Shaving. Now, that also does have something to do with low self-esteem and being scared about how Iâd look without beard since I am bearded for half my life and didnât shave my face smooth since I was 16, but Iâd like to try but then everybody and their mom would ask why and I donât want to answer (Iâm a bad liar and donât feel comfortable lying, too).
Edit: I appreciate yâall wanting to help, but please stop. I didnât ask for advice, Iâll probably eventually figure something out and I kinda feel pressured and pushed, itâs really not great. Sharing your own experiences is fine, but more is really not needed (especially if youâre suggesting coming up with excuses)
It should be, but isnât exactly for my family. Theyâre already completely losing their shit when I tap a toe outside my usual âI wear black until thereâs something darkerâ-presentation.
âI bought an electric razor to try it out and see if itâs more efficient, but accidentally shore a giant hole in my beard and had to do damage controlâ is also a valid answer.
Hey, Iâm just here after reading your edit, and I just want to say that youâre totally valid.
I have a big bushy beard and I wear dresses and skirts and such. I know that Iâm definitely in the minority, but fuck it, lifeâs too short not to do what you want.
Ever since I was a kid I wanted a beard like my dad. Now that itâs come fully in, I havenât shaved my face in a decade. Itâs at least as much a part of my identity as my femininity, and the two donât have to be mutually exclusive.
Anyway, I donât want to add to the pressure youâre feeling. Youâre the only one who can say how you should live your life, and thereâs no wrong answers. But Iâve lived in the closet for a long time, and while I was there it might not have been comfortable, but it felt safe. But now that Iâm out, I wouldnât trade it for anything.
I get that. I didnât shave my beard until the weekend before starting hormones. It was an armor I grew to protect myself (partly from seeing my face) and I let it go when it was time. I had the same reasons for not shaving sooner. So grow it until youâre ready to shed it sister. Your body is yours alone.
When I shaved and people noticed, I just told them I used to shave that way or that Iâve always preferred it this way, and the only reason I had a beard before was because I was so busy for a while and stopped shaving to save time, so I was just getting back to my normal habits. You can probably find a similar excuse, that you have always preferred it this way and youâre just getting back into it.
I should emphasize: men shave all the time, there is nothing suspicious about shaving your beard, hard stop.
Been there, done that. What helped me was two things.
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Finding out nobody cared that much about my beard missing, except some close friends/partner but they also know me
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Just saying âI wanted to try something newâ which is definitely not a lie :3
Honestly shaving makes a huuge difference. Even now, a couple of months into hrt and permanent hair removal the difference a fresh shave makes for my self-recognition in the mirror is astounding!
- Finding out nobody cared that much about my beard missing, except some close friends/partner but they also know me
Itâs mostly about my family, especially my mom. Sheâs a different kind of judgmental sometimes. And sheâs the last person I want to get a sniff about me changing in any way.
Honestly shaving makes a huuge difference.
I know⊠Iâm happy itâs long pants season again so I can shave my legs and it hits completely different.
I might shave my face, too, but only when I donât have to meet with my family for a few weeks so I can grow some of my beard back. After New Year is probably gonna be good time since itâs probably scarf season anyway.
Yeah, I kinda wanna try shaving off my beard as well. Itâd be a bit problematic for me though, all my ID has me with a beard, and i look completely different without it (photo ID gets checked a lot for work). Whole reason I grew it was because itâs so dense and grows so fast shaving smooth regularly was a pain in the ass.
Does your beard grow quick though? But yeah, how much a full, thick beard changes your appearance is often underestimated.
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