I have never, ever, understood the appeal of virginity. Who prefers someone who is uncomfortable, awkward, and doesnβt have any experience?
This has always baffled me. This is one reason why I think sex workers should hold a high status in society: they provide an valuable service in training the uninitiated and unskilled. Itβs like taking tennis lessons, and all your future partners should be grateful for their lessons.
Virgins donβt know that you suck at sex. Itβs an insecurity thing. Most people donβt realize it.
And then thereβs me. Who has been with one woman, who was actually appalled by the whole attachment thing, but controlled so much of my life that I became permanently awkward, uncomfortable AND stuck with super low self esteem.
I donβt know if I suck at sex, or just suck in general. If I survive this divorce Iβll take that win right now.
Disclaimer: I am not holding or promoting the following.
But the meme is βif youβre gonna eat a sandwich, youβd like it better if someone hadnβt fucked it firstβ
I think the core of the meme revolves around possession. Seeing the βsandwichβ as something to attain, and possess, and consume. Indeed, I would not like someone to fuck my lunch. But a person has an independent life where their value is certainly not graded in such a way. ( Or any way, in this context)
If you are obsessed with taking something pure, and only having your influence on it, for all time, then the virgin thing matters.
I want to stay a virgin because I donβt like sex. If I wasnβt a virgin, it would mean something very bad had happened to me.
Worst case scenario, you lose your chance at wizardry at the age of 30. Keep it at all costs friend.
The magic missile and fireballs are well worth it. Especially the spell βmend buttcrackβ.
Thatβs not how I meant it.
Thereβs a cultural value in virginity in girls. Itβs pretty common across cultures: for marriage, virgin women are more desirable than non-virgins. Itβs biased; the virginity only increases value for girls, and it probably stems from men wanting to be sure than any prodigy are actually theirs. Women can be nearly 100% sure a kid they have is theirs (not quite 100%, as thereβs a brief period when a channeling swap could conceivably be made), but the men can never be certain. The best odds you have is to get yourself a virgin. So female virginity has been valued through history (by men), and I think this is where the fetish of having sex with virgins comes from.
Thatβs what Iβm taking about. Iβve never understood the appeal of βbeing a girlβs/boyβs first.β
