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But you can only sell if someone is buying, and the moment you list that huge skyscraper on the market and find out that the only offers you’re getting are 1/10 the asking price, suddenly the other massive commercial buildings you have on your balance sheets (and those of all your rich buddies) suddenly drop 90% in value, and it’s revealed the emperor has no clothes
But see, according to my awful family in Oklahoma, they voted for Trump specifically to keep their daughters safe from all the pedophile trans people who are raiding the bathrooms of their grade school like orcs sieging Helm’s Deep. Sure, their daughters now have no reproductive rights and they’ve never seen or met a single trans person, but this was definitely the best decision to keep them safe and healthy.
That’s because conservatives are very individualistic for whatever reason. Instead of seeing systemic issues they see bad apples.
Because conservatism inherently relies on fear of change, simple thinking, and avoiding the discomfort of questioning the status quo at all costs. You want to believe that everything is hunky-dory the way it is, and avoid thinking too hard about all the ways it might not be.
It’s uncomfortable to think that the system you’re participating in and benefitting from might be the cause of it. No one ever wants to think they’re the bad guy. It’s the reason they hate stuff like CRT so much, because it’s an incredibly uncomfortable thought to imagine that everything they’ve known and tried to maintain is actually a complete nightmare and they’ve been part of it in some way.
The world is much scarier when you see the pain and suffering so many experience, and it’s through no fault of their own. No matter what they do or didn’t do, some people just get dealt a shit hand, either by chance, or because of systemic issues. It’s much easier to say “The system I believe in is totally fine and just, it’s their fault they haven’t been able to reach the same place I have”.
As someone who recently came out as well and has at least had a bit of time to work through this a bit, you’re gonna be okay.
This is something that, whether you realize it or not, weighs on you in an unimaginable way and unfortunately that crushing weight causes an immense, unending pain that can get directed towards others. A lot of us have those feelings, and while you can’t undo the things you’ve said, you can definitely make amends for it, and this is a great start.
You’re going to be reflecting a lot for the next few weeks I bet, and just make sure you’re not too hard on yourself. You’ve made an incredible step in accepting who you are as a person, and ruminating on past mistakes isn’t doing that. That person is gone. You’re obviously still “you”, but in accepting yourself now, that scared, suffering, angry person is no longer scared and suffering and angry.
If you can, therapy, or even just journaling can help immensely. Externalizing some of the thoughts you’re having by writing them down, at least for me, tends to calm things down a bit and keep them from constantly buzzing about your head.
Stay strong, and feel free to reach out. We’re here for you.
I finally started to come to terms with being trans, and this week has basically been non-stop coming out to people, which has been kinda rough to say the least… My wife and I were married for 4 years and planning on kids, but she saw some clear signs and really made me introspect and finally come to this realization. She’s struggling hard and doesn’t know what to do, as she feels like she has to mourn the man she married and “doesn’t want a wife”.
She moved out on Monday, and we had separate Thanksgivings with friends and had to explain to friends and family what was going on. I have a phenomenal support network of friends who’ve been helping me through this, but my family is distraught beyond belief at what the future holds and feel absolutely blindsided by all of this. Which, to be fair, I’ve done a phenomenal job at hiding it, even from myself.
Even despite all this, I feel like I’ve never been happier, which almost makes it feel even worse at times knowing so I’ve hurt some of the people I love the most so much. It also just causes so much of that doubt to come rushing back in, that I’m “faking it”, and that things can “go back to normal”. I know it’s just a coping mechanism, and that rationally I have literally written pages of peer-reviewed journals with pretty clear “Here’s why you’re trans, dummy”, but goddamn if it doesn’t make the whole thing that much harder when those pangs of doubt come creeping back in and making it feel like I’m throwing my life away for nothing.
TL;DR it’s aight
Did they actually go through with it? I remember them attempting it, but then immediately backing down and issuing a very reasonable response letter basically saying they were clearly in the wrong and allowed the union to form. I could totally be unaware of any more recent developments though.