Discord was already succumbing to enshitification. Now with their intention to be owned by Wall Street, that trajectory will certainly accelerate at warp speed once the change of hands happens.

Anyone already get ahead of this and find a solid alternative?

Right now I’m on the fence between Element for Matrix, and Revolt. Both seem to have their pros and cons and I can’t find a clear “winner”.

24 points

What are your thoughts on xmpp? Recently I have come to like a lot and am pretty active with friends there.

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There are people using xmpp? Last time I set up a server and tried using it with Pidgin, I couldn’t find a soul that used it

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They’re out there. The Venn diagram of people still choosing IRC (as opposed to being forced to use it b/c that’s where the community is) is probably just a circle.

I was a big XMPP user back in the day, but because of the lack of multi-device message syncing and the really shoddy state of encryption, I wandered away. Plus, using XML for the protocol really geeked me out. XML is a document format, and per the spec, to be well-formed it needs to have an open and matching close tag. Jabber hacked around this by making a sort of infinite document - you get the open tag, but never the close tag - and it just felt really icky.

I understand a lot of these things have since been addressed. I don’t know if XMPP still uses that bastardized version of quasi-XML without a close tag. But other things have come along that I like more. About 6 months ago I started running a client on my desktop again, but like you, nobody I knew was still using it, and nobody new was advertising it as their connection info, so… yeah. After a few months, I stopped running the client.

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@sxan @shortrounddev jmp.chat uses XMPP, and it’s a very viable replacement for Google Voice (and generic SIP options like voip.ms), so that’s what got me back on the XMPP train. No one else other than my family is using it with me, though, but it’s still nice to have SMS, (encrypted & decentralized) family chat, and IRC (via biboumi bridge) in one desktop client.

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Xmpp is mostly used for private groups and 1:1 chat, so more of a WhatsApp than a Discord replacement.

But you can find some public channels here: https://search.jabber.network/

The issues you mentioned have been fixed, and XML was never an issue 😅

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2 points

You do eventually get the close tag, when you log out. Lol

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1 point

Irc isn’t the competitor of xmpp. Discord is

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xmpp is still valid but the new kid on the block is activitypub. I don’t think I’ve ever hosted an xmpp server but to me it’s a better suited (mature, focused)protocol with plenty to offer that AP can’t yet.

having said that, stillll no moderation on free networks.

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2 points

XMPP feels dated and has to much protocol sprawl.

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Honestly, I am ready to go straight back to TeamSpeak.

I miss hosting my own server and having full access and control over it

I used to just host it on a piece of shit. 2003 Dell XP machine I put Ubuntu on

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Hell yah, TS3 crew all the way. (Or TS5 for the zoomers…)

My nerds herd recently also set up a cluster of Matrix Synapse servers so we got our little “We have Telegram at home” set up. Getting non-tech people to accept that this is how to find me has been tricky without sounding like a digital prepper.

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: ( i was too dumb to follow the playbook correctly

i wanna have a matrix sever!

but I’ll use snikket for now until i skill up

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We believe in you, there are other write-ups and guides on how to get it working. Its was great learning expirence for VMs and Proxmox (thats what I did and it did make it harder, but I feel more confident when im cosplaying as a sys-admin)

Guide

This one is pretty close to whats needed, but go into it expecting each step to open a new tool/application that needs to be researched before you press enter. Also look up how to set it to a PSQL db before you start inviting users, it defaults to SQLite and that will cause problems eventually.

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Why would you down-grade from Snikket to Matrix?

If you want to skill up a bit add a Slidge.im gateway to your Snikket xmpp server to access Matrix (and Discord etc.) from there.

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If you try to do calculus and don’t have the understanding of the underlying math then you won’t have a good time when ansible breaks. I’d advise it’s normally better to learn how to manually install and manage software from the command line.

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5 points

I used to have a free lifetime server from someone that was giving them away, but he shut down after a few years.

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4 points

Did he die?

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8 points

Maybe it was based on the “lifetime” of their hamster 🤷

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6 points

TS 6 looks so good. I can’t seem to figure out it’s release window though. Along with the mobile app being updated. Once those are done I plan to move over.

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19 points

There is also Mumble. TS3 era voip and text chat features, but it’s FOSS.

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It was so featureless back when I last used it. I don’t remember it having half the features ts3 had in 14

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Oh, it’s basic af. But it did what it needed to do, and still does, for some.

I havent used it in ages, I have no clue what sort of stuff continued development has enabled. If anything.

My friend group went first from Skype to the massively better TS3, and finally to Mumble. I don’t remember really missing anything.

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If they add federation I’m sold. Honestly it would be nice if it integrated with Activity Pub

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It’s not that kind of application. Federation would be massive overkill for a project like Mumble.

It’s a voip server and client for video gaming, with a couple adjacent features sprinkled in.

It doesn’t even really have accounts, and adding servers is just matter of configuring their IPs. What would you even use federation for?

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50 points

An alternative would need screen share, just voip is not enough any more.

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honestly that isnthe only thing that stopd me from going all in on teamspeak/mumble

i just need a screen sharing solution (not necessarily built into those tools)

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The problem is that performant screenshare (to multiple users) more or less requires infrastructure. That requires money, and it’s impossible to compete on price with services that have the VC-enshitification model.

You can get around this in a few ways, but they’re all tradeoffs that are in some way or other worse than discord.

  • P2P - sacrifice latency, reliability
  • direct multi-stream - sacrifice PC performance and/or bitrate
  • paid infrastructure - sacrifice money
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I think P2P is still the way to go. Sure it’s not perfect, but it’s simpler and by it’s very nature doesn’t require the infrastructure we know will be a problem.

Plus, don’t forget screen sharing in discord isn’t very good as is (720p30) if you’re not a paid user.

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What if you had OBS create a “camera” of your screen, and then use that through video chat?

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19 points

Ah, the good old “screenshare not working on wayland” workaround!

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Most of the discords I’m on never use screen share for anything.

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All the ones I’m on, around 30, it’s the only thing it’s used for.

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TeamSpeak recently added screen share to their TS6 beta, however it currently only works on official servers provided by TeamSpeak; they have not yet released TS6 server software, only the client. To my understanding, they are thankfully still planning on releasing it though.

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Damn TS3 was still kinda wet behind the ears and maybe even still in beta last time I played with it. I only used it for one group and I cut ties with them.

I never even used it, I only know TS2 and it’s purplish, super basic ugly interface. (If anyone even remembers that- would’ve been back in mid to late 00s)

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128 points

it’s Element/Matrix if we’re lucky. Revolt is just another Discord - surely this single company will last! With Element/Matrix being an open protocol, it won’t be a “platform” you have to leave when it goes corporate.

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Revolt is F/OSS

https://github.com/revoltchat/

It’s not just a company with a clone of Discord, all the server back end, etc is open.

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That doesn’t really change that it’s one company hosting it. Unless you’re willing to make 10 different accounts because your super-FOSS friends aren’t willing to join each others instances?

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I guess the easy solution here to to make it use oauth2 authentication. Then you can just authenticate using one account elsewhere. If fediverse services also at some point become oauth2 providers, then even better.

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Yes, which is good, but the lack of federation is a deal-breaker. It means that you either:

  1. Use their servers - This requires entrusting them with your communities, just like Discord.
  2. Host your own private instance - You can control it, but the lack of federation means it’ll be isolated from communicating with other communities. This makes it really difficult to convince people to use your self-hosted servers.

Until Revolt adds a way for different instances to federate, Matrix is really the only other option.

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My experience with Matrix is that the federation itself is a deal breaker. I have a pretty beefy server and good connection which was getting ddosed by running Matrix and timing out on so many requests for avatars/profiles etc. Maybe I did something wrong, but the whole experience rendered me quite skeptical to the viability of it as a federated chat.

That said I’ve had nothing but good experiences using it with big servers set up by pros.

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I have yet to try revolt, but I thought you could just add stand-alone servers to your client (like idk, mumble). Is a revolt instance a whole separate ecosystem/infrastructure and not just a server entry?

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…theoretically for now

It a centralized server controlled by the devs

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Host your own then

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Nheko provides an interface that is reminiscent of Discord. Fully featured and fast Matrix client.

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Thank you for the recommendation. I tried element a while ago and found it lacking. Matrix must be the way forward. Disregarding IRC of course.

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Sadly I found out yesterday:

Matrix is not a community-based software, it was born [00] in Amdocs [01], a multinational corporation founded in Israel.

https://hackea.org/notas/matrix.html

Many were claiming its impossible to get contributions merged as well.

I would be happy to find out this information is wrong or outdated.

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Feels like fud.

Matrix is a set of standards and governed by an open foundation https://matrix.org/foundation/about/

Also there are many different server implementations and its hard to believe they all send your data to some third entity. In other words, what is stated by that link is just plain false. Not to mention that today there are quite many clients as well and I find the bridge point a bit… Idiotic.

You are free to use matrix.org but makes way more sense to self host your instance, and maybe not even use Synapse but something more “modern” as server.

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Why use Element for matrix?

From what I can tell it collets and links data to you: Location, identifiers and contact information.

How is that private or better than Signal?

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Because people don’t use discord for privacy. They use it for gaming, voice chat, communities and streaming.

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@Nikelui is 100% right: a chat room may be private, but it’s not secure. Even in an encrypted room, every additional person you add reduces your security. I’m sure there’s some paper out there that studies this, and that the graph of # of members vs security is an inverse power ratio.

If it’s a public chat, there is no security.

However, with Matrix, if you run your own server and restrict access to your friends, at least you can be fairly certain your chat room isn’t being used to train an LLM, or to harvest information about you for advertising.

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There is a difference between willing information that you put out there and data gathering that goes on without your consent.

Public chats are not my concern. That’s information I’m putting out there willingly.

Location data is something I don’t want anyone collecting without my consent.

Why does Element need to know where I’m located? Why is that being gathered with my identifiers?

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Isn’t the data sharing optional? I’m pretty sure it asks you on first startup and you can decline.

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I use Signal for private and personal messages. I use Discord solely for gaming and voicechat. A good alternative doesn’t need to be overly private (although that would be a bonus of course). It just needs to have a good UI and feature parity with Discord.

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There is a difference between willing information that you put out there and data gathering that goes on without your consent.

Location data is something I don’t want anyone collecting without my consent.

Why does Element need to know where I’m located? Why is that being gathered with my identifiers?

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You know the app still works if you deny it loc permissions, right?

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Does it? On Android, it never asked me to grant location permission unless I try to share my location to another user. Similar with contacts and calendar, it’s working perfectly fine without them. Where exactly does it link those identifiers and with what?

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This is what shows up when I check Element. Every other Federated app that I use doesn’t collect any information. Voyager, Pixelfed, Peertube, Mastodon all come up with “No data collected”

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Ah! I don’t know what exactly these mean, would be interesting to see what Element says what those mean. I don’t think Element actually adds these to your messages etc but I don’t know the protocol enough.

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3 points

The Element web client will break encryption when you clear your browser data.

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Does it? I think it logs you out and after logging in again, you need to provide your encryption key/verify with other device again in order to access the history. Or wdym with breaking?

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Signal is centralized and require a phone number to register, it’s not private at all.

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That’s bullshit.

A) Privacy =/= anonymity

B) They have usernames and the option to hide your number from searches for those interested.

C) Signal has absolutely no way of accessing any of your information: https://signal.org/bigbrother/ They publish all their subpoenas and there is no information that are able to collect. It’s all encrypted.

D) Phone numbers are an easy way onboard the normies and Meta addicts that don’t value privacy.

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Your phone number is tied to your identity, there are no reasons to ask it to begin with.

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