I donāt feel the need to post my life onlineā¦ Continues to post personal story online
you have xmpp? -noā¦
Matrix, Briar, SimpleX? -no
gotta have Email at least? ā¦ ā¦ no š§
I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you donāt have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think youāre lying and just donāt want to add them.
Itās about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, thatās outside of whatās normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I donāt want to be alone with someone I donāt really know who is unpredictable. Iām just trying not to get murdered.
Folks wanna know what theyāre getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.
Well, it is not a court. But frankly i wouldnāt want to be with someone, who cannot meet a couple times and develop an understanding of other people by actually talking and listening to them.
I also thinks this plays a role as to why so many relationships fail today. People have unlearned to build experience and trust their instincts, looking for preconceptions instead.
loner, but not autistic or ugly so I get invited out pretty often
Oof. This hurt to read