Never thought about it but obviously everyman has had a dick in his hand for obvious reasons. And all females old enough for sexual interactions have had one in their hand. This is now stuck in my head. The next time I shake the hand of a woman I am going to wonder how many dicks she has had in that hand.
Hey, uh, don’t refer to male humans as “men” and then female humans as “females” like that. It’s kinda dehumanizing.
Like, I get calling men, “males” and women “females”, because I’ll do that sometimes (I claim fur-brain as my defense, because calling anthro characters “man” or “woman” is weird); but try not to do the thing where you say “men” then “females” as if we’re a complete different species. That’s… just… not appropriate in a normal context.
Yes! I’ve been trying to figure out what the fuck the difference is for a long time but for some reason that explanation kept eluding me; I don’t mind being called “a female [blank]”, but just being called “a female” bothers me. But that’s it right there, it’s when it’s used as a noun.
LOL. The politically correct police are on your ass tonight!
I cannot believe the seriousness of these replies. What is it the kids say? “Touch grass”?
It is amazing how so many people cannot simply joke around. Politics so consume their lives every single thing in life is viewed only in that context. And not only cannot they not simply joke around they are on a mission to impose their views on anyone who disagrees with them. What a sad way to go through life. Social media in general is all a joke. And this group specifically is all about just getting a laugh.
Impose their views on people who disagree with them? Damn that’s crazy, people want others to treat people with respect and not be bigoted? How political
There are so many issues with this comment. Judgy and naïve in the best interpretation.
Gonna has to go piece by piece through this:
obviously everyman has had a dick in his hand for obvious reasons.
This line is trans-exclusive, which would probably be given a pass by all but the most ardent trans-inclusive commenters, but still not great.
And all females
Dude. There are some times when an argument is made that saying “females” is not inherently objectifying, especially in a scientific, military, or other setting where people are categorized that way, with the significant difference being consistency (e.g. man/woman, male/female, etc). Using one then the other strips all that away and makes it seem like referring to women as “females” is just your normal tendency, which strongly suggests the objectifying behavior.
And all females old enough for sexual interactions have had one in their hand.
This is just obviously wrong, as plenty of lesbians, asexual people, or those with lack of access to sexual connections with others have not had a dick in their hands, and that is not an insignificant percentage of women, I’d imagine.
The next time I shake the hand of a woman I am going to wonder how many dicks she has had in that hand.
As if to underline the “females” comment, it’s pretty telling that you feel it worth mentioning that you’re going to wonder how many dicks were in the hands of women, but not men (especially funny since any man you meet has most likely had a dick in his hand more recently than a woman).
Sometimes it is difficult to notice your own biases, so I hope this makes you think about what leads you toward thinking like this, and just general self-reflection.
I mean dildos are shaped like dicks generally so they probably have nothing against Dick, just the useless shit attached to it
Honestly curious about this. I don’t think that people turn into homosexuals. They either are or aren’t at birth. But in the case of lesbians, which you raised, I wonder how many have at least once experimented with at least one hetero interaction which would involve penis holding
So assuming good faith curiosity here, heteronormativity and compulsive heterosexuality are a thing. There’s huge social pressure to conform - as a child growing up I got constant messaging that one day I’d grow up, get a boyfriend, get married, have babies, etc. and so, starting to feel the pressure of being a late bloomer and not understanding that my awkwardness around other girls was because I was attracted to them (because that’s not like a thing), I found myself a boyfriend at 18 and we dated a few years because I really loved him and the sex was mostly enjoyable. But only a few months in I realized I was attracted to women, and it took a few years to fully accept it. Dating women is much harder, factually it’s a numbers game there’s just a lot less of us. But I dated a few over the years, and it took me seven years before I dated another man for a couple months, who I also love and I’m still good friends with today but we haven’t hooked up in almost a decade. And then there were a bunch of women since, some for a short time some for a long. I consider myself a lesbian through and through, although the label police will be like well acktually which is toxic as fuck. Obviously words have meaning but people have the right to express themselves as they see fit. Pedantic people would say I’m bisexual because I dared to sleep with two men in the last 18 years. I’d say I’m so rarely attracted to men that I actually stop and savor the moment when I do find one attractive, like seeing a rare bird or something lol.
So to answer the initial part about turning homosexual , I think sexuality is somewhat fluid and few people are 100% in either direction. Think of the most attractive male actor to you (assuming you are male). Would you be embarrassed if you woke up in bed (consensually of course) with them? Or would you be like damn alright well that was enjoyable but probably won’t happen again?
Speaking of which, an obsession with dicks or second hand dicks totally sets off my gaydar. Not that there’s anything wrong with being gay, but this post feels a bit like overcompensating, so maybe it’s something to think about.
Like does it really bug you that a hand probably touched a dick or does it bug you that the thought causes a more complex reaction than that?
Either that or you don’t really care about it that much but are saying it to trigger others who might care, which I can respect.
“Almost” is a bit optimistic. Are femcels getting office jobs these days?
Some people are straight and left handed. Typically shake with your right. Possible to split the responsibility completely although has to be rare.
Counterpoint: a greater number have touched a vagina (but that framing doesn’t obsess over a woman’s sexual purity, so, clearly less important)
Proper uncensored version thanks to @baatliwala@lemmy.world
Couldn’t find a wild uncensored version, so here’s an edited version. #FuckCensorship
I should hope so. If somebody shook my hand and, while maintaining eye contact, and confessed they’ve been free-willying every pee of their life, hands behand their head, I would have to seriously reconsider our relationship.
