This entire comment section is a mess of people who apparently don’t understand that companies are just listing out the things they want. If they find someone that meets those requirements, then fucking awesome…otherwise, they will still take people in for interviews that meet a majority of those requirements. You think they’ll really pass on someone that has only 7 years experience in this hyper specific role when they are looking for 10?
You don’t have to meet every single requirement.
Point is neurodivergent take things more literally. That means the job requirements along with the some possible difficulty in guessing what an interviewer wants when they ask a question. A “normal” person would probably be fine with creatively arranging a resume to look like it matches the job requirements, schmoozing and making small talk with an interviewer, and the follow up courtesy emails. A person say who is ASD/ADHD could find the interactions difficult, especially schmoozing/small talk, and while telling “lies” isn’t foreign at all to non-normative people, being told you kinda have to “lie” on a job app and then creatively explain that lie is gonna be problematic.
Even better I’ve had an interview for a company that listed a insane list of skills, spanning front-end to backend over 3 different tech stacks… Turns out your application gets sorted into very specific teams by HR, with a much more limited tech stack. They had a whole online platform for testing before I even spoke to a real human…
Being ‘locked’ into a limited tech stack wasn’t what I was looking for at the time, so all in all a huge waste of time.
I think the issue is that it’s called a **requirement** and not an “appreciated characteristic”
Get this all the time in software development, being given “requirements” and most of them are pretty stupid wishlist items.
I constantly argue that that will not get a good outcome if they just call everything is equally a “hard requirement”.
What they want to do is negotiate and start from an unreasonable anchor point. In my case I find it super tiresome because my stance is always the same, make a priority list and we’ll get as far as we can. But escalating and tying us up in meetings to try to argue for stuff you are just using as a negotiating tactic only gets in the way of us doing what we can. We are going to do what fits, and people are not going to work unpaid overtime or holidays just to meet some arbitrary deadline. If it doesn’t fit, well it won’t be long until the next window.
My team has a very long history of ultimately exceeding the hopes of the folks asking for stuff and yet they continue to try to get us to commit to stuff we never will.
Neurotypical people are more “morally flexible.” Which sounds like hypocricy and corruption to me. Assume NT’s have ultirior motives and it becomes a easier to read between the lines.
So far, the other comments have failed to realize that this is actually some of our thought process and way of adapting to neurotypical norms.
I will say that after I get used to a person’s body language and speech patterns, I tend to ease off of assuming ulterior motives (which has bitten me on the ass once or twice).
Hypocrisy and corruption are easy to breed from that, true. But the NT is also get a nice set of useful tools from it as well, like choosing their battles, and not painting people into corners.
How those tools are used are basically down to core morality and how you want to apply it to your subordinates, co-workers, and management.
I suspect I’m not fully ante and a lot of those lessons were difficult to figure out.
I can see where you’re coming from. Some people do have ulterior motives or misaligned morals, so it’s good to stay aware of that possibility. At the same time, assuming that’s true for everyone might not be necessary. Instead, it can be more effective to recognize that bad actors exist and use that knowledge to look at situations from multiple angles when needed. This approach helped me to stay critical and aware at (mostly) the right times, without jumping to conclusions too soon.
I don’t understand why op thinks they are special for going through this workflow. Women are way less likely than men to ignore job requirements when applying for jobs and many many people have to be reminded that job requirements are fluffy. Are all these people “neurodivergent”? We seem to want to apply this term everywhere for some reason.
I think “neurotypical” by now means “I wanna say ‘normie I look down upon’, but I don’t want to sound like an incel”
Nope. I’m neurodivergent, I know a lot of neurodivergent people. We all kind of gravitated to eachother over time. Some are ADHD, like me, some are on the spectrum for autism, and there’s a bunch more that I simply cannot list because the list is pretty long.
I can tell you that zero of the neurodivergent people I know use the term “neurotypical” to mean anything like what you suggest. In every context it’s meant to exemplify the lack of mental struggle that some people have in their daily life in contrast to what most neurodivergent people experience.
Eg, anxiety and paralysis when contemplating or engaging in anything remotely social. For some neurodivergents, such activity evokes a very strong reaction. Some neurotypicals also experience something similar, usually less severe at least; but the experience is not unique to us.
The most common derogatory use of “neurotypical” that I’ve seen is regarding empathy, or the lack thereof, from people who have not experienced a major mental health event, and are so neurotypical that they cannot even fathom the struggles of people who are neurodivergent.
You all don’t understand, then victim blame us and call us lazy, when our brain chemistry literally prevents us from making any useful progress on stuff. Then there’s a whole swath of you that shames us for using meds to help correct the discomfort of being wired differently in a world that isn’t designed to accommodate, or even sympathise with us.
Now we’re being, more or less, accused of using “neurotypical” as a slur to hide that we’re incels?
Seriously?
I don’t think that op thinks they’re special by going through the workflow. I think op thinks that the workflow lands differently on them because of their condition. I think op thinks that it’s related to their condition because no one else seems to be complaining about this and so maybe neurotypicals aren’t as bothered by this.
I think most people are like this but neurodivergent people have trouble coming to terms with breaking the rules. As in they see an incongruity between the stated rule and the way everyone behaves. What OP is talking about is textbook neurodivergence behavior though I’m sure other people experience this to some degree.
As a neurodivergent, this. Exactly. I couldn’t have said it better myself. I literally cannot because I’d quickly ramble on and talk about seemingly unimportant things for like, three sentences, but only use commas, so that it looks/reads as a single sentence, then ultimately say what you said, but I would say it worse somehow.
I’m ADHD. AMA?
Yeah, this is an oddly common sentiment amongst those that make neurodivergence their personality; which is funny because it’s more common to be neurodivergent than neurotypical. While it’s usually said that 20% of people are neurodivergent, it’s actually more than 50% when you include everything that constitutes neurodivergence and even account for significant overlap.
Even if you don’t qualify, job hunting is just throwing your resume to the wall and see what sticks. You got nothing to lose by applying.
and self esteem when a CV scanning AI sends you an automated rejection e-mail how you’re not qualified to work a job that specifically has “no qualifications or experience needed!” written in the listing
logic knows it’s bullshit, but man, it still stings to read
Yeah except then they make you fill out a really long form to actually apply because no one accepts CVs anymore
I think of myself as a neutodivergent person but I am annoyed by neurodivergent people who act like everything is binary yes/no black/white full volume/absolute silence. Like, everyone in the world knows that the gas pedal in the car is not an on/off switch and believe it or not but other things in life are like that.
Yes, and this is why it’s a disorder and can be a disability despite people saying things like "autism is my super power ". It’s not funny when strict rigid thinking runs up against fluid reality. People make absolute rules in their heads and when the real world doesn’t align with those rules they can suffer real distress.
I guess that’s my point. I agree with you. ASD make up a large portion of ND. I don’t personally like the ND identity even with an ADHD diagnosis (and have quite obvious symptoms when off my meds).
The reason I don’t like it is because if you use it as an identity, suddenly my experience needs to be accepted by everyone. I need the medicine to function in this society. To appear as a functioning adult. If I just said to people “Im neurodivergent” and expect them to handle my lengthy train of thought and wild imagination I would probably not have a job.
It isn’t race, ethnicity, a sexuality or gender - that is an identity that affects no one regardless of occupation or status except the individual. Neurodivergent disorders affect you, your family, your friends, your employer, your customers, your classmates, etc.