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“If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

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I think it’s more about control than sending what you love away.

“Set it free” means let your love interest choose to stay or leave on their own, don’t try to keep them caged.

Depending on what you mean, it’s possible that your love you regret letting go of wouldn’t have lasted even if you had held it and fought.

Though if you mean you took that saying and thought it meant you needed to push your love away to see if they returned, then yeah, that’s not a great strategy.

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Yeah, the latter is how it was explained to me. Like, literally break up with the person you love to see if they’ll fight for you to take them back. Or push them away and wait a few years to see if they magically reenter your life or something. Crazy, I think some people believe they live in a hallmark movie

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Ah fuck, that’s a rough lesson to learn the hard way. Like so obvious in hindsight, but if you needed to learn it, you needed to learn it before you could see that.

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I installed a gravitic emitter in my belt that makes it feel like she has to walk uphill to approach me. Let’s see just how much she loves me, and if it’s statistically significant in its difference between how much she loves approaching the cat.

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Could have also meant just not working to maintain it. “Let it go” could (foolishly IMO) mean “stop feeding it”.

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If you’re a quiet dedicated employee your value will be recognized and rewarded.

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Yeah, that doesn’t work well anymore. Gotta be a noisy dedicated worker, and be willing to move jobs a few times to start seeing the rewards

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rewards mostly come from job hopping. Raises at every place I’ve worked arent callibrated to inflation, so your 4% raise that the boss thinks is so great is closer to 0-1%/

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Yeah, that doesn’t work well anymore.

It never did.

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Don’t believe anything you read on Wikipedia.

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That infuriates me. “Oh but anyone can edit”. Yes, but see for how many seconds your stupid edit will last. It’s the single most rich and accurate encyclopedia humanity has seen, ffs.

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Teachers should be using Wikipedia as an opportunity to teach skepticism and following sources. I wouldn’t allow Wikipedia to be used as a cited source, but as a starting point for finding other sources on a topic.

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Does anyone still say not to trust Wikipedia? They did so in the beginning and it certainly didn’t have to turn out trustworthy so that was good advice for a few years.

Now we see it’s the most trustworthy encyclopedia, and my kids’ teachers qualify it as “an encyclopedia is not an original source “, which is correct and a valuable distinction. They recommend it as a starting point but don’t allow citing it, as is correct.

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People on Lemmy refer to it as NATOpedia.

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My parents separated when I was really young, roughly 5 yrs old. As I grew up and had visitation with my dad he always drilled into me “women just want a man who can provide for them, in the end they all just want money.” Being young and obviously not knowing how crazy my dad was yet, I believed him for a long time.

Turns out when you treat people like they just want you for your money, that’s the only kind of people who will put up with you. Kinda self fulfilling. Found a nice lady now, happily married and caring about each other, not just money.

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“Fully empty your battery before charging it up again, it increases the lifespan of the battery.”

This was true before lithium-ion batteries became the norm. But for lithium-ion batteries, the opposite holds.

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Remembering which of my devices are old method charging and which are new method is a pain.

I have several camping lamps from like 20 years ago that I almost threw out because they weren’t holding charge anymore, before I remembered to be fully draining the batteries and recharging them once a month. They work like new now practically.

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What’s the opposite of “full empty your battery before charging it again?”

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Don’t let it uncharge fully. You ideally want to stay in the 30-70% range as much as possible.

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From time to time you want to let the battery go from 100% to shutting off, so the charging circuit can calibrate the reported capacity

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Also, charging it to full is much better than letting it die until it’s empty.

I’ve also heard 40-80%

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Well that one is still true if somehow you still have Ni-Cd batteries in your life.

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