and what for?
I don’t understand the theatrics involved and being brutally honest, once I’ve decided a workplace is not a good fit I don’t give a f*ck about it and put all my energies into transitioning to the new job.
Even if I may find the same sh*t at my new workplace, things cannot stand as they are now and I have to move on. I have to leave.
I don’t believe any rational person would act differently.
People happy with their jobs don’t go job hunting or interviewing. It’s always the unhappy ones, the unfulfilled ones the ones that yearn for change, for something different the ones looking. It could be your micromanaging manager, it could be coworkers playing favorites or doing several 20 minute smoking pauses plus their regular 30 minute one…
Why pretend everything’s sweet and dandy at the current workplace? It’s ridiculous.
I’m now at a situation were I don’t care about burning bridges and calling a spade a spade if they ask why I’m leaving (my coworkers are petty, childish, lazy, don’t see that I’m constantly working while they talk about stupid issues and still need my help to finish their job), I work more than them and they still have an attitude with me.
If I leave my current workplace, chances are I won’t come back nor work with my coworkers in the future. And even if I had to work with any of them in the future, why would I want to suffer that again? I’d reject that offer.
I value being sincere and while I could play the stupid game and claim I’ll call them or hope our paths cross again (dear god, no) fully knowing that’s a lie, I’d rather be direct and leave no looking back.
Even if you play theatrics because you think it’s the only way to survive because you need the money, doesn’t that mess with your mind, constantly having to suffer people you despise? I couldn’t do it. My mental health is more important than playing stupid games (just my 0.02$).
What’s the point? To hurt/offend them? Be an adult and just move on without a fuss. It’s you “brutally honest” folk who are the worst to work with IME.
There’s a gap between “willing to be brutally honest when it’s necessary” and “brutally honest in a whim because everyone should feel the same about things as I do.” These types that love to tout just how “brutally honest” they are, tend to lean into the latter.
Most of us can be “brutally honest,” when it’s useful to do so. But often, it’s just a red flag for someone who not only fails to recognize their own bias’, but actively justifies those bias’ as objectively true.
It shouldn’t be hard to value positive relationships, even with less than stellar people, over smug self-satisfaction.
Because I’m a functional adult who can moderate myself and retain some professionalism?
Also, even if an employer is ass, stories of you making a scene will spread to other potentially better employers. There are no advantages to burning bridges, but the disadvantages can be many.
There are no advantages to burning professional bridges.
Otherwise I agree.
There is a large gap between “oh, thats right I forgot she worked here a few months ago” and “that bitch? I’m glad she’s gone”.
The latter of the two is more likely to say something negative about you to a future potential employer or coworker. And this gets more true the older you get, especially if you continue working in the same/adjacent field.
For my own sanity.
I want to look back knowing that they were in the wrong and I was as professional as I could be.
If it’s a bad workplace, I rather them just get consequences for their own actions instead of trying to make it more personal.
Also, your words don’t mean much at that point, you leaving hurts them waaay more than you telling them to fuck off on your way out.
As a contractor I’ve worked with some real idiots and some really unpleasant bullies too, but I’ve never given them the proper “fuck you” when leaving. On one occasion I was able to go back to work for one of them when I was stuck for work during covid. On another occasion a referral came through one of them which led me to a 3 year contract of solid work.
So I don’t burn my bridges, you never know when you’ll need to cross one again.
Or to put it another way, you might not think of yourself as having a “network”. But those bridges, like them or not, are your network. And they’re worth more standing than burnt down.
Because people see your actions, not your worldview. E.g. a future employer who happens to know a former colleague.
-“Hey, you worked with Vestmoria, right? What are they like?” -“A bit stuck up and complainy, but we got along ok.”
Alternatively:
-“Hey, you worked with Vestmoria, right? What are they like?” -“Complained a lot, caused a huge scene and left.”
