I have memory for many many things. What I don’t have is the ability to recall them when I want. Also I wonder how can I have good long time memory while having zero short memory, it’s a mystery to me.
The ability to consistently recall words/names of things is one of the most apparent changes when I’m medicated vs non-medicated.
Really? It improves for you? May I ask what you take?
Cause for me it’s a bit tricky, some medications I’ve tried have made me completely unable to remember words in regular speech, causing me to give up on treatment with those.
But on the other hand, others don’t tend to do much for my attention deficit, despite boosting my attention.
Yeah, it really helps me a lot with recall. Like the difference between trying to start a cold engine vs one that’s already warmed up.
Just basic adderall. I’ve actually been largely off of it for a while at this point (I go in phases where I decide it’s not worth the side effects).
This is exactly why I keep the messages unread so that I don’t forget to reply later, and eventually keep them unread for weeks making it useless to reply after so long, therefore giving up and not replying anyway
Does it cause you anxiety thinking about replying? Because that’s what it’s like for me
It gives me guilt every time I see the unread notification from weeks ago.
Yeah, that checks out. I think I need to get checked out for ADHD. Maybe I’ll start the process tomorrow 🤣
For this reason I refuse to take any actions that would mark a message as read until I’m confident I have time to reply to it.
Messaging apps need a “remind me later” feature, so I can mentally steel myself for what I have to do.
On Android, you can snooze any notifications for an hour or two, which is nice.
Huh, TIL - is there something I need to do to enable this? Or rather, how do I do it? Sounds like a game-changer.
A very real risk.
Make time to check them if it’s important or be clear that it’s a dead communication line if you can’t maintain it. As a fellow ADHDer I’ve had to back out of a few different platforms because I simply can’t allow myself to engage with them - if someone @s me on Facebook I’ll see it in six months to a decade… I do try and make sure my contacts all have good lines to me if they need to reach out, though.
My problem is I don’t answer in my head. I think to myself, I need to craft a reply but I need time to do that, but then I don’t want to make the time to do it, and then I just don’t do it or I wait until way later when I crack and think “well I gotta say something” and send a half-assed reply just to put it out of mind.
Answering texts is virtually no different to doing homework in my brain.
I often will write a response, anywhere from just starting it to complete, but the send button is very regularly missed. I don’t realise I never sent it until either the next time they message, or I need to message them, then it needs to be edited to say I forgot to hit send
What about, “I panic about my planned reply and hesitate”
