Is that possible or am I just SOL for never being raised
Honestly my advice is to avoid the population at large as much as possible. Popular culture is bad for mental health.
What makes you think being on the same page as society is a good thing?
Start studying, it is never too late to UNLEARN or LEARN. Step one is realizing YOU are now in control to improve things.
It helps knowing you’re not the only one, IMO. Look up people who have left high-control communities (would have been called cults in decades past). People can come out of some pretty horrific backgrounds and with hard work, intention, and support, live good lives.