It’s been a long ol time since I’ve known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it’s mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.
I’ve seen people (lesbians) talk about it, so I’m leaning toward “yes they can but not always”, but I cannot give an authoritative answer as I am not a lesbian.
A lesbian couple on Twitch got asked who the top and who the bottom was. They said they switched.
No idea what that means mechanically.
Is that the one where you slide the joycons in and out trying to get the console to recognize and assign the joycons?
If you do a little googling it is easy to confirm but there is the sexual definition like you where referring to and then there is just the more general relationship definition which is basically the Top is the more dominate / assertive partner and the bottom is the more passive partner.
If you “do a little googling” you can confirm anything you want wether it’s true or not. That’s why I came here to ask actual lesbian, and lesbian adjacent people.
So you asked a completely unverifiable public forum, full of users with ambiguous alts and user names and expect a BETTER answer?
You must be new to the internet.
Wow. You sound like the kind of person who picks a fight with a stranger on the internet, declare yourself the winner, goes through their profile to down vote their last hundred posts, and goes to bed at 6am, knowing that you’re the best.
To address what was only a question in the technical sense, I ask this here, because I like being able to respond to people’s stories, and ask follow-up questions, which I can’t do reading a three year old article on an ad supported medium which was probably written to give to Grandma to explain why her favorite granddaughter never brings any boys over for Thanksgiving.
Now quit being a jerk.
I think in the second half you’re asking whether butches are more likely to be toppy and femmes are more likely to be bottomy.
I think there’s probably some positive correlation there but butchness and toppiness are distinct concepts.
Things about this post:
- It’s concise, and address the initial post
- I’ve never heard the terms ‘toppy’ or ‘femme’ used in this way, but I’m happy that I have now.
- Is ‘Butch’ PC these days? I’m old and can’t keep track.
- It has the feeling of being written by a professional Lesbian scientist on their lunch break at work.
- I love it.
You might want to differentiate between Top, Bottom, Switch and Top, Bottom, Versatile, i.e. BDSM vs penetration positions.
I’d also say that this is less about physiology and more about the individual acceptance of the concept of position.
Top, Bottom, Versatile is not necessarily a queer thing, since (cis&trans) heterosex can have positions as well. That is to say, not all queer relationships regardless of gender follow the concept of position.
It’s not just a position thing. It’s just that everyone exists either left or right of the center on the spectrum of ‘mostly giver vs mostly receiver/passive’ spectrum. The gay male community has taken to the terms of Top and Bottom to articulate ones usual preferences, and I was just curious if lesbians had come up with a similar canvas, or if it just doesn’t come up as much with them as it does for guys.
