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Cool glasses tho

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Oh it’s you! I remember your name from reddit. Used to spend some time on the femboy subreddit. Cool style you got there.

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“Passing” is becomming increasingly irrelevant as even cis folk are increasingly ignoring gender norms. Just try to look how you want to look and fuck what other people think.

Also are those the newest gen aftershokz? If so how do you like them? I really need to get myself a new pair and I’ve been looking at those.

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THEY HAVE ACTUAL FUKKEN BASS YO

I forgot how some of my music used to sound like with my old V-Modas (which I stopped wearing outside cause they’re too heavy, isolating, and they detract from my aesthetic.)

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Ok, you’ve sold me. I’m getting a pair. Thank you.

I currently have the old gen 1s and my biggest complaint has been that there’s no bass basically at all. That and the buttons have finally quit working after 3 years of near daily use.

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I mean, people don’t question cis women (as much these days) who don’t try to look feminine/masculine. The same applies to trans people - however much makes you feel comfortable matters.

Younger people just don’t care as much, which is great.

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I’ve been talking a lot in therapy recently about how “passing” is becoming a moot concept. That used to be the goal of transition back in my day (2000’s) but nowadays people are just free to pursue whatever their ideal self is regardless of what society deems as “passing”. I struggled with this concept for a long time - I thought, “but what if the people around me know I’m Trans?” and he has been challenging me to question “Why would it matter?”. Sure there’s the obvious concerns of bigotry and violence, but in a safe space such as work or friendship, does it really make a difference?

The times that I can slip into that mindset of not caring whether I pass are the most free I’ve felt in decades. I hope all my transbros and sisters can achieve that.

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I’m delighted to read you consider work to be a safe place. I hope that is the norm for everyone.

I imagine for most it’s not true though.

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100%. I’ve worked in many places where I had to hide, and so I think I’m still stuck in that mindset.

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As long as work is a safe space, it’s moot indeed. However, since work is tied to food and shelter in this absolute fucking bullshit hellscape boring-ass dystopia, being trans can fuck people up out of house and food.

Sorry, let my opinions get the better of me for a moment.

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Nah that’s absolutely valid. I feel lucky to be in a workplace with a union, a gay CEO, and a prominent LGBTQ club that ensures every employee has what they need to succeed. Earlier this year I pointed out that the complimentary gym doesn’t have gender neutral showers and within a week met with the head of the legal dept and head of facilities to figure out how to implement one.

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