Meh, there’s 0 chance of my crying making anyone’s interest.
That said I don’t post videos of anyone’s kids.
Fifteen minutes of fame, flash in the pan, there will be another crying kid tomorrow, only the grandparents will remember, and chances are very good that the data will be wiped from the servers in the next 10-15 years.
It should be illegal to share your child’s information online. That should include videos and pictures of them, and details about their lives.
They have no say in it, and imagine growing up and then finding out your parents have shared your entire life online?
Fuck parents who do this at all. I don’t wanna hear about small friends or family group blah blah blah. There is NO REASON to share like this regarding a minor on social media.
I also always find it interesting when these parents never share the same amount about themselves.
This is the wrong approach.
Parents are doing this for likes and views!
Social media is the problem. We need to tear Facebook and Tiktok down.
This is the wrong approach.
People are having too many kids!
Heterosexuality is the problem. We need to tear sexuality and gender down.
There needs to be voluntary continuing education for adults and parents in the information age. Our social norms are strong, and people will largely self regulate if they are educated about consequences of their actions. There needs to be public education curriculum changes for kids that are focused on functioning in adulthood.
We dont need a law for everything. Parents have always been able to make decisions for their children even if it seems wrong to other people, within reason.
Jesus Christ, can’t even film your kids have a happy moment without offending some 20 something year old snowflake, who thinks we want their parenting advice.
Parenting advice from childless young people is like marriage advice from a priest
It’s not they filming that’s the problem, it’s posting a video of them being vulnerable on social media for everyone to see, and possibly be used against them in the future. Would you be appreciative if the next time you ugly cried, someone took a video of you doing so, adding their commentary, and then posted it for the world to see?
No one is saying not film your kids, its more about the sharing of said films online to public forms.
Sending a embarassing video grandpa is one thing, but posting it for the whole internet to see is just a breach of privacy. Strangers to the child, aunts, and schoolmates don’t really needs to watch little Billy public meltdown, Sally slipping into the pool, or a public review of Jonny’s report card and his punishment.
There’s espessially creepy ones too, I’m sure you could find things along the vien of “having the talk with Billy” or “Sally shopping for feminine products for the first time” if you looked. There are moments that simply should not be recorded. Those “family vlog” channels are some of the worst offenders.
We spend all our efforts telling kids not post pictures of themselves online or share too much personal information, yet today’s 15-20 year olds are finding pretty much their entire life catologed publicly on Facebook by other people,
Having that “life catolog” is cool, but the fact its publicly avalible to anyone is the creepy part.
We advocate for a child’s right to their online privacy. Let them to be the ones who choose what is and is not available for the world to see.
Other people mentioned how your missing the posting to the public part of the equation. Video and take pics of your kid, but those are private memories and the child should have a say in what gets shared with the public. (Obviously that is my opinion, but I support bodily autonomy. Even if they are under 18. This mean different things depending on the event, because sometimes kids are stupid. Parents obviously need to make their kids do some things they don’t want, but sharing things on social media is not one of those times. Maybe stop them for over sharing, but that’s it.)
Also…
Parenting advice from childless young people is like marriage advice from a priest
This isn’t really the same thing. A childless young person just went through being raised in the modern age. I don’t know where the kids hang out or what took over for skibidi after I found out what it is, but the young childless people might.
A priest that was never married has no life experience, but…they might hear what the arguments that are going around from talking to married people. They would be able to explain what worked with other couples…
Okay maybe you were right about the analogy, but my conclusion is different. Listen to them and see what they say. Just cause someone has a different life experience than you doesn’t mean they can’t form helpful advice based on their own.
Videoing my kid has been an effective method for getting him to stop throwing a tantrum. I wouldn’t post it to the internet, but it seems to get him to care about how he’s behaving, so sometimes I’ll do it.
Posting it once will reinforce any feelings of resentment your child has for you. Tread carefully. Technology was not meant to replace common sense child rearing.
Was going through links on a wholesome subreddit the other day, looking to calm myself down, and happened upon a video of a young teenage girl in an audiologists office getting her cochlear implants turned on. She was emotional, and happy crying, as her mom filmed her. But it just seemed kind of wrong to share? Like, this is a private moment for you and your family, and you can see the moment the girl realizes she’s being recorded, and how she then immediately goes to wipe tears/cover her face.
I’ve come to revel in the idea of not recording precious moments, just because I don’t want to cheapen them with the inclusion of a smartphone, a screen to separate myself from life happening on the other side. I take a similar approach to good deeds. Do something good, or kind for someone, and then don’t tell a soul. Keep it with you, for you, only. Hoard those moments like a dragon, and whenever you are having a crisis of faith, where you’re unsure as to your own worth, remind yourself of those times you did something kind for no other reason than it was the right thing to do.
Yeah, I mean by all means record to share with the family, it’s a nice moment and you can’t have all people at the doctors office, but to post that shit online is as they say, kinda cringe.
Even sharing with family is an act of betrayal if not ok’ed with the kid.
At 40 years old I still am unable to make myself emotionally vulnerable without the other person putting in too much work because of family sharing private shit amongst themselves.
I am sorry for having a rough childhood but we are talking about sharing a video about a medical procedure not some secret you told