Why marry a turd in the first place? 🤷
People also change, and someone may over the long haul become something you didn’t really expect out of them.
Anyone who knows friends or family that fell down the magat hole understand this
This was my dad. He was always right leaning but then Trump came along and he went die hard political full on Trumpet.
He’s one of the smartest people I know and watching him get more involved and more and more angry was terrifying.
I tend to believe people don’t really change but they do tend to show their true colors eventually. However, some of us are not a great judge of character.
Life is also complicated and messy.
I disagree. Some people do change. Learn new things, car accidents change your life, cancer changes your life, new job, …
The only thing constant is change.
Can confirm. I was a hard right conservative during Obama.
Life happens and now I’m an anti-capitalist pro-union progressive.
Some of my best friends acted liberal until they hit 30 and suddenly they were Uber conservative. I’m less concerned with if they were really liberal before and more concerned with what they’re okay with now. No longer friends with any of them because these are basic morality concerns
I personality know two very liberal women who married right wing nutjobs, the first one married a full MAGA, proud boys type militia and election denier guy who she thought she could change him (she couldn’t).
The other one thought that political differences didn’t matter in a romantic relationship (it did).
Both ended up in divorce.
she thought she could change him
Has this ever worked?! Like a single time in the history of our species?
Edit: I asked the High Council for Female Affairs (my girlfriend) about the why and her answer is - summarized: At the beginning of a relationship you see things you like and things you don’t like. Some try to quell the bad things and enhance the good things. The emotionally immature ones believe in “a perfect relationship” and actively try to form their partners instead of looking for someone who has less of those bad qualities. They tend to fail spectacularly.
My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)
She started voting republican after a few years :(
Any of those topics that people who care more about society being polite than just tell you to avoid are ones that should be not just discussed but agreed on before making a relationship legally binding. Religion, money, politics. They are each too serious for “agree to disagree” to last long.
I’ve dated conservative women a few times, they definitely said things like “I don’t let that come into my relationships” and that never ended up being the fact. And goddamn it they all were REALLY into D/s dynamics. Albeit that’s a quality I typically find in a partner, but tbh they kinda excelled at playing the role phew.
Not just a concept
What a great time to be on the market 😄
Hm I wonder what the divorce rate is like when broken down along political views
Depends on whether the study is from places likely to be subject to bias like the “conservative” group institute for family values that claims county level polling shows more democrats get divorced (despite conceding the accuracy of state level polling?), or more normal groups that have shown for a decade plus now that red states have higher divorce rates. Top five are:
- Nevada
- Oklahoma
- Wyoming
- Alabama
- Arkansas
…while you can.
Not really, but it’s more about child custody and child support if already married.
https://www.factcheck.org/2024/03/posts-distort-missouri-divorce-law-regarding-pregnancy/
Nowhere in Missouri law does it say pregnant women are barred from getting divorced.
But a judge handling a case where one party is pregnant may wait to finalize that divorce until the baby is born, which, experts told us, is done in order to consolidate custody and child-support agreements with other end-of-marriage arrangements.
This can happen in other states, too.
