I couldn’t learn this in teenagehood nor early adolescence so I have to learn it now. I don’t want to go into details of my upbringing, but think about a kid living on the streets, growing up only knowing war and survival
You don’t always need to be doing productive/constructive things. Rest and leisure are valuable too. But if you insist, I suppose the first step would be to come up with a list of goals you want to accomplish.
Thankyou, my internal child agrees. I’m exhausted. Since a couple months I have a job for the first time where I feel safe, which is awesome.
I’m sad that I’ve never been able to play, like I don’t even know how.that is … I wish I could also have emotional memories of playing like a kid on the playground
Whatever makes you happy is time spent constructively, wanna play games, time well spent, wanna read, still well spent. Dont burden yourself with the ridiculous optimizing yourself philosophy so many self help people adhere to (unless thats what makes you happy).
Some good answers here already, if none of that suits you, you can always clean and tidy up wherever you live.
Ok a question this broad needs a Maslows hierarchy of needs ranking.
First is the basic needs. It sounds cliche but take care of yourself first. Cook and eat good food, including liver.
Exercise. Sweating it out really does help you physically and mentally.
Therapy. Sounds like it will help.
Read to expand your mind. High on my recommended list is “how to win friends and influence people”.
Get new experiences. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive, just random things are part of life’s learnings.
Masturbate
