I’m not crying you’re crying
I sleep in the couch for her. It’s romantic. Her body is able to detect murmurs in the hearts of ants trying to steal scraps from the kitchen floor. In fact she detected most earthquakes after the 70’s several hours before the most sensitive instruments. My job is to romantically lay here immobile between the time darkness falls and the the time the sun shows up again and until noon on weekends of I can help it.
It’s impossible so she’s always pissed at me for waking her up.
My wife read to me when we were going to sleep. We both enjoyed it, but she’d get more energized and excited about the story as she read while I’d slowly fall asleep. Opposite effects.
She was only annoyed that she’d sometimes say “are you awake?” and I’d answer yes, so she’d keep reading. But I was absolutely asleep.
10/10 recommend couples reading to each other.
I’m really glad that’s there’s still happy people in this world that can share a little of their happiness. This was awesome! Good way to start a day. Probably the high point…
I desperately want to read to to someone every night. That’s like ugh… my dream
How does one acquire a wife? Asking for a friend of a friend
You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it. Then eventually you find someone you want in your life. Next you decide to journey together long-term and help each other with each other’s problems.
Somewhere along the way you get the government involved—this is the part I don’t really understand but whatever.
“You live your life in a way that makes other people want to be a part of it.”
That is really well put, and exactly what happened for me. I met my wife in circumstances that it would be impossible to ask anyone to replicate (to quote Dylan, “I helped her out of a jam, I guess”), but the important thing was that at the time we met we’d both done enough work on ourselves to be someone that it was easy for the other to fall in love with.
That really is the best dating advice; work on yourself. Obviously, on a practical level, put yourself out there; use dating apps, go to speed dating, find social venues that align with your hobbies and interests, and so on. But most of all, put the work into yourself. Therapy will do more for your romantic life than any makeover or platitudes about being confident.
“I helped her out of a jam, I guess”
Hopefully you didn’t use too much force
You don’t need the government involved, or the church. Just if you want their goodies, like a church as venue, or tax breaks. You can have a pagan wedding in the middle of the forest if you want.
tax breaks
…and easy, unchallenged legal transfer of assets when they die without having to prove anything to anybody.
You wouldn’t believe how much harder it is for unmarried people when their partner dies. It definitely depends on your legal jurisdiction, but stuff like “We shared everything for decades” holds no water. If it isn’t bought solely in your name, there’s no particular reason why you would inherit it wholesale, and you may need to sell your joint home of thirty years to pay your debt to your partner’s nephews and neices or something if you don’t have a cast iron will and good lawyers.
To get legal rights, you need the relationship to have legal status.
