169 points

This is called skin to skin and when my kid was born the staff was telling me to do it, supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby and it gives them some time to take care of mom. What I can tell you is it felt amazing.

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115 points

As a dad to four kids, skin to skin is absolutely essential to a life long bond and making your children feel comfortable and loved. Fuck this sexist bullshit.

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Yep, dad to three kids. I can’t imagine not having newborn snuggles. In many ways it is 100% beneficial for the baby. When babies snuggle close to a chest, it is often a signal to eat. Sometimes they can get frustrated when mom does it 1) when they don’t want to eat but are being smooshed into a boob that smells like breast milk or 2) when they want to eat but mom doesn’t want to or can’t feed at that moment. Snuggling with dad or a second caregiver is a great alternative.

The most peaceful sleep my kids tend to have is after being fed then baked nicely under a blanket on my warm chest.

Dad’s deserve bonding time too

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Started a new job, but 4 days before my wife got flown to our area’s leading hospital due to complications with the pregnancy. So day 4 rolls around and I’m literally ~5000ft underground, no cell signal, get back to surface and check phone ASAP. 4th child,1st daughter, born 3 months premature hours earlier. First chance I got I drove the 8 hours to see them and within minutes of arriving it was skin on skin with this smolly. She was heckin early but healthy. Every opportunity I got, I’d drive down for snugs. It was around her OG expected due date before we could bring her home. Almost 2 years later and we’re besties.

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67 points

supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby

Yep!

Helps them regulate their breathing rhythm and their body temperature. Likely transfers beneficial skin bacteria.

And it makes them feel safe.

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33 points

More importantly, it helps them go to sleep easier, deeper, and longer.

Strip the kid down to their diaper, lose your shirt, lay back on the couch watching a movie or reading a book with a light blanket over both of you.

That pretty much describes my evening after dinner when my boys were under 6 months old. If you do it right after they eat it’s pretty much a guaranteed 3-4 hours of peace even with a newborn.

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37 points

Agreed, I did the same, it’s highly encouraged now. Frankly the thought that others might find it strange didn’t even cross my mind, but wouldn’t have discouraged me in the slightest.

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27 points

I did it too, my little guy pooped all over my chest lol. Totally worth it.

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30 points

Ah, yes, the ole 2 way bacteria transfer.

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11 points

Related side note: case any non-Americans didn’t know, hospitals bill for for skin-to-skin contact sometimes.

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7 points

Fuck sake America. Though strangely that’s a lot less than I thought they’d have charged you.

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Soon they’ll have you breathe low O² air and charge extra to open the ventilation system in that room to circulate the good air. If there’s a window it’ll have no way to open it at all, for safety reasons. Not even a small slit.

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133 points

I mean, that’s just kind of sad that she didn’t have any nurturing men in her life as role models.

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70 points

Tell me you have daddy issues without telling me you have daddy issues. Or something. Idk.

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37 points

I wish her dad loved her in an appropriate and caring way.

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10 points

This is absolutely projection 101. You know immediately her father was absolutely nothing like this.

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1 point

“She”. Pfp is AI generated. Pretty sure it’s a dude behind the account who isn’t even Irish.

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73 points

She is so right. Progressive gender roles are a cancer. She should get back into the kitchen, unable to own property, no right to vote and shut her mouth if she doesnt want to feel the back of my hand. /S

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5 points

You forgot no shoes…

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8 points

I like my women all dolled up, if she doesnt do the housework in high heels and have a martini waiting for me when I return home from a hard day of sexually harassing my secretary…

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48 points

This provides warmth to the baby from their fathers, which in the case of this cold hearted frigid iceberg of a woman, they will definitely need it.

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38 points

Those disgusting men! How dare they provide warmth and love to their children!

Next time I want a photo of the baby on a block of ice while the father is in a suit and ignoring him.

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12 points

Dad?

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Facepalm

!facepalm@lemmy.wtf

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