This is a photo on my (f28)Instagram. My brother in law (m42) reacted to it in DM, and said the above. I feel I replied normally, but now my sister (f39) apparently saw the message and is saying that I engaged in hot discussions with her man! I am myself married and I feel so bad now. I told my husband who said I did nothing wrong. Any idea how I could approach my sister ?
I feel like the answer to every post on these sorts of communities is “you need to have a responsible conversation about boundaries with all parties involved”
Did people not learn this as kids?
Egh, what a fkn creep. Tell your sister and her husband he should start being a normal person instead of a weirdo, unless he’s looking to get in trouble some day.
Your BIL is a creep and your sister is trippin because she’s in denial about it
Call the pervert out HARD to everyone.
Claim your victimhood and make all other relatives aware.
If he’s doing it to you, he has no boundaries: he has/will do to others.
“Victimhood”
It’s some negging and relationship-inappropriate comments that weren’t met with a hard shutdown, calm down.
Is he a creep, yes, because he’s clearly making the opening overtures and being skeevy about it in general.
Otherwise it’s not like he’s abusing power or sending dick pics and using that language hurts the people who actually need it.
Look, I try to see the good in everything, but there’s no other way to look at it, that first message just comes off as creepy as fuck. Idk how close you are with your sister but it sounds like her man should be the person in trouble here.
Edit: thinking about this some more, if both of you were not in a relationship it would still be on the creepy side imo but I guess that could be construed as a pickup line. But in this situation ? Ew.