Celebrating or coping today?(lemmy.world)

posted 4 months ago

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AggressivelyPassive@feddit.de

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4 months ago

Soooo, you can’t relax without alcohol.

That doesn’t sound odd to you?

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lightnsfw@reddthat.com

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4 months ago

Did you even read my reply? I CAN, I just don’t have enough time on a week night to do so. I’ve tried numerous methods of doing so and so far having a drink is what works in the timeframe required. I’m certainly open to suggestions for better alternatives.

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AggressivelyPassive@feddit.de

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4 months ago

Again, you CAN’T, obviously. Otherwise you wouldn’t keep doing it. It’s a coping mechanism you found and now you got so used to it, any other method just doesn’t cut it anymore. That’s a dependence.

You can argue all you want that it’s a time issue, but we both know that’s not true.

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lightnsfw@reddthat.com

6 points

4 months ago

Then why do I not drink when I have several hours available to relax instead of just 1-2?

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Crashumbc@lemmy.world

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4 months ago

No one starts out at the deep end of the pool. It took me 15+ years to get bad…

I’m not saying you are or aren’t, but that behavior, if kept up long term, is problematic for many people.

You also seem overly defensive about the implication you could have a problem.

I say this as someone who was exactly like you. Then it was 3-4 after work, and drinking “socially” every weekend… Etc etc… And so forth.

Not judging, just throwing it out there for you to think about.

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lightnsfw@reddthat.com

9 points

4 months ago

I appreciate your concern but I’ve been handling things this way for ~12 years now and it hasn’t escalated. If anything I drink less now than in the past. I’m not worried. I don’t even like getting drunk. What I’m defensive about is the implication that I’m an alcoholic from someone that knows next to nothing about my life and is probably unqualified to make that determination anyway. Especially when they ignore half of what I’m telling them and just says that I’m lying. As I said before if anyone has any better ideas I’m open to suggestions but so far nothing else I’ve tried gets the job done.

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PapaStevesy@lemmy.world

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4 months ago

They’re not overly defensive, they’re just regular defensive because everyone is ignoring what they say and calling them a liar & an alcoholic over and over. They’re being very reasonable and thoughtful, they’re not calling people ugly names or insulting anyone’s family. How is that overly defensive?

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