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And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.

Edit: I wrote the above to illustrate how many options there are in the parlance of active listening. The formula is simple: imagine how they feel and join their side or, if you can’t yet imagine, ask questions until you can. That’s it.

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Awesome list! Much better than a list I would make 🙂

I would just change slightly the “What can I do to help?” (That is a call for a “nothing”) to “How can I help?” (That shows much more enthusiasm in wanting to help)

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Hey thanks! I like that phrasing better. Less perfunctory, more sincere.

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Look at mister “I leave the basement twice a week” over here

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In the land of the blind awkward the one eyed I dunno less awkward I guess man is king

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Thanks, man. I needed that.

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Legend

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