According to the handkerchief code, he’s a bottom that gives handies
I used to wear a black kerchief around my left wrist when I was hiking, for wiping sweat and washing face, TIL I’m a strong SM top when I’m on the trails. Not quite sure what that means but I’m willing to learn.
Always! I can even carry some of your stuff, I’m quite strong and experienced!
American queer people were like, “hankies!” and British queer people were like, “they’re going to treat us like criminals, so let’s use the secret criminal language.” And then they were like, “fuck you, we’re teaching it to everyone else.”
Well, we take the hankies out when someone catches a whiff of Lily Law or Jennifer Justice.
But for real, both are really cool means of coded communication. Hankies are definitely less of a “Gay men” thing than a leather community thing, though that’s getting into niche enough subcultural divisions that it’s not the sort of thing most people care to learn and there’s really no point for them to. But yeah the hankies partly served the same role as polari, it’s a way to communicate illegal desires in a way that requires being taught the code. It’s actually quite similar to learning drug slang, except with a higher barrier to entry back in the day.
Really I just like introducing people to Polari because I think it’s cool.
