Honestly I think, as a cis man, cis people are probably very bad at answering the question.

humans tend ignore “harmony”. When you walk through the field, do you look each blade of grass or at the cow? Do you feel “non-pain”? How could you possibly explain someone pain that doesn’t know pain? Do you remember the last time, you sat next to your friend watching a show on tv, in the same detail, you remember the conflict/discussion that you had with them?

Generally we will remember and pay attention to the things that are “wrong”.

If your gender is right for you, why would you pay attention? What would you even pay attention to?

If it is wrong for you, you feel the “pain”, see the cow and remember the conflict.