https://itsfoss.com/install-ubuntu/

The best advice I’ve heard is to not overthink the distribution. There are so many, and the differences are actually a lot smaller than people let on. Most of the differences are cosmetic, and the differences that are not cosmetic are things a beginner wouldn’t notice, like package management policies.

Ubuntu, while not perfect, probably has the most straightforward installation process and is widely used so you can get lots of help online.

Once you get a little more comfortable with Linux, check out the Arch Linux Wiki. It is filled with lots and lots of really good info that usually pertains to all Linux distributions, not just Arch.

Start following different Linux communities on Lemmy and Mastadon, there are many great communities.

Also, there will always be assholes who gate keep - this is not unique to Linux. So ignore the few haters out there, there is an overwhelming majority of super helpful and kind people out there.