My partner does this all the time. Unfortunately, theyâre often completely wrong about what I was trying to say. Suddenly weâre having two completely different conversations simultaneously.
If they didnât interrupt you would still be having two conversations since they misunderstood what you were trying to say, but it would take longer to catch on.
Iâm talking about situations where my meaning would become clear if I werenât interrupted before I finished what I was saying.
Itâs fine, though. Iâm learning to front-load my main points. Instead of trying to say âHey, I know we said weâd clean the basement this weekend, but I think itâs more important that I spend that time fixing the car,â and getting interrupted with thoughts about the basement before Iâm able to mention the car, I try to say âIâd like to work on the car this weekend. I think the basement can wait.â Takes practice, though.
Agree to some extent, but the meaning would only become clear if they continue to listen instead of assuming they know what youâre about to say and zoning out.
I have some of both with my SO and Iâm not sure whatâs more annoying, being interrupted or explaining exactly what you mean and having none of it be absorbed.
Yeah, leading with the important part so the reat of it has context seems to work a lot better for a lot more people in my experience. Especially in your example where you are trying to front load the thing to do followed by the thing not to do. That way they donât jump to speculation halfway through the sentence :)
On a somewhat nonscientifically aupported personal observation, if the sentence structure has a âbutâ in the middle the audience is very likely to start mentally guessing what is coming up and will have more trouble listening to what it being said. It can often sound like a rug pulling moment, where what they thought was true is suddenly switched up and most people donât like that. So if thinking ahead it is better to reverse a sentence like in that example to avoid the middle âbutâ.
