Things will get better the moment your youngest becomes more independent, and sleeps well at night.

And here comes the guy who thinks he can do it better, this time without mass killings.

Yes it does, the only parts where Java doesn’t shine are usually some advanced features that are nightmarish for people who are building tools and libraries:

• The type system is so 90s and it’s kept like that for backwards compatibility.

• Generics having type erasure is again an improvisation for the sake of backwards compatibility. It makes writing generic code in conjunction with Reflection painful.

• The lack of control for the memory layout. I mean in most cases you dont need full control, but there are use cases where it’s literally impossible to do optimisations that are easy to do in C/C++. You must have faith in the JVM and JIT.

• Integration with native code is cumbersome.

Other than that Java is fine for most backend work you need to do, except probably for Real Time Processing apps where every millisecond count, but even there there are ways.

You use Java not for the languages itself, but for the tooling and the ecosystem.