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I’m starting to feel like this genocide straw man is truly their strongest argument. Like, is that going to make me forget the other option wants to turn the country into a dictatorship?

You seriously want to bring up genocide to play a “lesser of two evils” game, when one evil is Trump? GTFO

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This is spot on. I feel like it’s also important to not misunderstand meditation. Nobody is forcing you into a lotus position. Open the windows wide, get naked under 2 blankets, close your eyes as if you were going to sleep, listen to the wind, feel every single sensation on your body, try to focus on YOU and your body. You don’t have to try to force yourself to not think, just don’t try to solve problems. Try to let these thoughts go. This doesn’t mean the problem goes away, but this is not the time. Right now we let it go and try to think of how we’re actually on a beach and the wind rushing through the leaves of the trees outside is actually the sound of waves… Or, you know, whatever works for you to ground yourself and have absolutely pure “me time”.

If you’re asking yourself how that does anything, the idea is that it should help you to detach yourself from coping mechanisms and behavioral patterns that are motivated by external factors, instead of what you truly feel you need. You might start to really crave these relaxation sessions that you designed for yourself. When you are in deep relaxation, you will easily be able to divide the thoughts that are forced onto you from those truly driven by your own internal desire for the happiness that exclusively you imagine to be right, just like the relaxation environment itself.

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Yeah, you’re probably right

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Pretty sure you missed my point entirely as well. So I guess we’re even

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Yeah, I’ve been with you. I owned a couple .so from Somalia for a while. They cranked up the cost to $$$ and I had to cancel it. I’m not a smartass, I just burned myself already in the past

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Absolutely spot on. If you’ve already delayed a lot, then reduce the pressure on yourself. You already made a huge leap by even accepting that you might need additional support. You don’t have to force yourself to now make up for potentially lost time or anything. Take your time to progress at your own pace. If you feel like you’re pressuring yourself towards a potential goal, you might set yourself up for failure. Be kind to yourself and don’t demand too much.

When you hear people talking openly about emotional challenging situations in their daily life, which you can relate to, but most people in your regular surroundings can not, that can be extremely emotionally relieving to a degree that is impossible to anticipate. It’s really worth it. But you want to feel comfortable on your way there. Slow pace is fine as long as you are moving towards your own goals.

Maybe it can also help you if you think differently about your goals. It’s not like a sprint in sports. Even if you might think you have to reach certain goals to function in society, and reaching them faster would obviously be better. This is not a competition. You set your own goals for yourself and nobody else sets the rules on how to get there. Your goals are more like a beacon. Even if there are strong headwinds every once in a while, or you take a break and just relax in the sun, you can still clearly see them and continue to steer in their direction, as long as you consider it to be right. You are in control

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Where I live, this is common and unnoticed. I see plenty of VW vans being driven by a mother on her way to the store after dropping off the kids at school. Maybe pickup trucks outrank those in other countries, but the mindset is all the same.

I’m not trying to apologize for trucks, but we need to expand our view.

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