Swallowtail
“But they drop leaves in the yard and that’s messy!”
Ok?
“And then I have to rake the leaves up!!”
Why?
“Because that’s what you’re supposed to do!”
Why?
Brain has BSOD
Try iNaturalist, it works pretty well. Also, learn plant morphology, makes it easier to narrow things down when you get a couple suggestions within the same genus or family.
I don’t expect shit from anyone. That said, when I’m at one I’m still going to ask if there are options, because why wouldn’t I?
I’m a teacher and not only do I not make my kids do it (it’s illegal to make a student say the pledge if you didn’t know), I don’t do it myself because I think it’s fucking weird and inappropriate. My only rule is to remain quiet if you’re not saying the pledge, out of respect to people who do want to observe it.