
LoreSoong
The second brake pedal is obscured by the handlebar post. I was so confused on how youre supposed to stop when the seat is flipped for a second there
Great idea, any specific suggestions? I used to watch alot of stand up but their content was very raunchy so it wasnt really her thing when id show her. We both enjoy bo burham even before he became famous. And lately weve been seeing clips of morgan jay that have had us giggling and quoting.
Normally Id say im sorry to hear about your situation, but you seem the defiant type. So i assume that would be taken as pitty or an insult. Instead id like to say that you and people like you are in my opinion the most genuine specimens of humanity your defiance in the face of adversity is truely an inspiration.
That being said, do you think its healthy to compare belly aches? I am not accusing you of doing so, but your words in this paragraph
There are people in far worse situations due to worse disability.
To me express the idea that “because others have it worse you should be grateful”. This to me is obviously true, but to someone deep in depression or any other dark place in their life could easily be interpreted as, “suck it up”. So when dealing with friends and family in some sort of mental spiral. I tend to heavily avoid this line of thinking. Even it is the cold truth they need. But maybe im wrong?
I don’t worry about things that are outside of my capacity to change. I cannot shape people into a tenable social situation where I can be myself, so I don’t worry about it at all.
This is probably the most helpful bit for my girlfriend (her words), but she mentioned that her social anxiety makes it impossible not to consider every single word and action of those she interacts with. How do you “deal” with not being able to change reality? I feel that ive acheived something similar, a state of neutrality towards the chaos around us. How would you go about helping someone along that path?
Great question, some of them are in other states/ countries making timing a big factor. She often feels alone for days. I will say, the quality of this group is very high. Genuine people who care about eachother. But with work and school some of them simply cant be there as much as theyd like to be.
Thank you, and your thoughts are always valid and valuable even if I or anyone might disagree. The more perspectives the better imo.
She very much agreed with your last point. but has trouble understanding the need to mask in the first place. She does not consider things like “not swearing around children or grandparents” or just being sweeter to them in general to be masking. Could you maybe explain your feelings on “being a sports fan” for example (you may actually like sports). But as someone who doesnt, I have been at events and settings where it was simply the comfortable thing to be. I wasnt lying to anyone but I definitely was asking more questions and cheering for something id normally have near zero enthusiasm for. I have trouble getting my ducks in a row to express something we seem to do so naturally.