I got a cowboy hat once until my partner pointed out that men who wear cowboy hats always end up on the TV news with neighbours describing them as a “quiet man who kept himself to himself”, despite which “nobody saw this coming”.
Fake.
No one remembers Anon years later.
Just didn’t own it. Anyone with confidence could have made it work just fine.
Lean into it. And if all someone sees is something that happened years ago, fuck’em. They don’t know you.