Too late, lurkers don’t comment!

I still remember this epic comment from @cm0002@lemmy.world. It’s funny because cm0002 is like one of the most active posters I see around.

And we’re here for you.

How often did you contemplate posting this comment?

I worry the same way, but mostly just when I’m commenting on something hurtful. Like if a commenter is being agonizingly wrong about something really important, spreading lies, you know the kind. I’ll get worked up and start writing a comment, but realize that any point I make can be nitpicked and invalidated even if it’s broadly correct. So I don’t post those comments.

But when it’s not in response to someone being inflammatory, I feel better about just doing my best with what I write. If someone has a correction, well that’s a good thing! I’ll acknowledge it and edit my comment to include the better info I’m given. I can hope that the people reading it don’t see that I was wrong on one point and decide I’m completely wrong because I try to interact respectfully.

>writes three paragraph comment

>edits comment for 10 minutes to make it as succinct as possible

>realizes it has nothing to do with parent comment

>deletes comment

Back on reddit, a good half of the comments I would have left got deleted as soon as I posted them. Lemmy has forced me to make sure I’ve said something relevant, because if I leave a comment and then delete it, everyone gets to know that I did that, and that makes me feel even worse than saying something slightly off topic

I felt this in my bones.

Same, but I cannot even get to the reply phase. Also I am bad at commenting/posting anything good.

I figure that there are plenty of other people that can tell me what’s wrong with my comment, so just post it and let others work for you for free.

The thing is, I feel like many people just add whatever they think and want to say to a conversation no matter how relevant or irrelevant it is to the current situation. In the end, I feel like most people on here are civil enough to not be mean-spirited towards one another unless they’re talking to bigots and stuff.

I struggle with this quite often too - especially when it comes to topics that can be quite divide and polarising - but I always feel good once I do step out of my comfort zone and post away. There’s usually bound to be at least a couple people with whom your comment resonates with. Give it a try maybe - you’d be surprised how well it can go :)

I feel you. I delete like half the comments I post and want to delete another half of what’s left before I do, for the same sounding reasons.

I don’t think people will be a dick to you on here, and if they are it won’t be well received by anyone else.

If it helps, people seem to be a lot more open to questions and discussion here than on sites like reddit. Its pretty refreshing.

lurking intensifies

Walking lurkishly down the stairs

How decedent