Not like, casual “Hi, how are you?” but seriously, how are you? Are you sleeping okay, is everything in your personal life going all right? And if not, can Internet strangers do anything to help?
That “No” buttons looks sexier every night.
I feel that, just gotta keep on keeping on though. Even if today sucks, tomorrow could be better, and you can only hit the no button once.
It’s a real sexy no button though.
From my experience life is a ball rolling down a hill. It never gets higher than the day before and if it hits the bottom you die.
Your birth decides the starting height and your effort decides the slope.
I started somewhere in the lower middle and put zero effort into life. Now I’m not even half way past others but I’m already near the bottom.
Let’s say I’m not exactly expecting a natural end to my life at this stage.
Life is definitely not a hill, it’s a rollercoaster. And there is no bottom. If you think you can’t take it anymore, there’s always a way to take more. If your bottom gets too deep, it does get harder to climb back up though. It might take a couple tries before you’re all the way back tot he top. That’s just my viewpoint though. You might not see it that way. And if you can’t see the foothold, than you can’t climb them. Maybe a change of perspective can help. Getting out there and meeting people can help with that. Volunteering is also a good one. A volunteer job doesn’t pay in money, but it pays in other ways, like perspective, experience, happiness, purpose, knowledge, socials contacts, things that are good for the soul.
This is my life story. Every day, I understand more and get closer to “old man lives alone with his dog in the woods”
I’m okay as long as I don’t doom scroll too much.
I’m Canadian and middle aged. I was braced for a rough Trump 2.0, but the last month has truly exceeded expectations for suck. Our country is under economic attack by our biggest trading partner. Human rights and trying to help and support each other are suddenly considered bad things. Our window to address climate change is snapping shut as our leaders around the world move in the wrong direction. I’m feeling really good about my decision to not have kids at least.
On the plus side, my sick cat is responding to treatment, and my partner and I have just set up a nursery - we’re going to start fostering wee kiddos whose families are going through rough spots. I’ve got some financial flexibility so I’m treating myself to a stack of coffee gift cards each week that I hand out to folks who look like they could use it. Sorta makes my day to be able to make sure someone unhoused gets a warm drink and some food.
Politics is absolutely a mess right now, part of the impetus for this thread lol
I’m so glad your kitty is responding to treatment! It’s so scary when they’re sick, I hope they get better soon.
I love the coffee card idea! When I have some extra cash at the end of a paycheck I might steal that.
Expect a lot of fearful people who are expecting their medicaid to get cut and lose access to healthcare.
As someone with cancer, that’s what I’m going through.
Not much can be done. The suffering is the point. The majority will not stand up for people like me.
I’m definitely expecting a lot of fear, I know I’m pretty terrified myself.
I’m so sorry, you just shouldn’t have to worry about your healthcare being dropped randomly, especially not in the middle of treating something. I hate that I can’t make your situation any better, I’m just sorry you’re facing that.
I’m in the USA, I’ve been seeing this harrowing bullshit for a long time. Long before it affected me personally. I’ve been angry about it for a long time. Nothing changes, everything gets worse. I’m just a statistic. It is what it is.
Thank you for the kindness, however. The kindness does matter.
I just bought my first home and I move in tomorrow. So really good. I come from a buttfuck nowhere conservative town and I own property on vancouver island now. Hell yeah!
Congratulations! That’s hella frickin exciting! After you get it all furnished and everything it’s gonna be fantastic, not having a landlord to pay rent to is so nice.
I don’t make fast enough progress with what I’m currently doing in my job (VM images with distrobuilder and cloud-init to call ansible-pull, if you’re into that kind of masochist thing), I get too little sleep because my body insists in waking me up 1h early every day, my 4yo sleeps in bed with my wife instead of me and I miss her terribly, and though we do make good money, it’s still kind of tight.
OTOH, we’re having a spontaneous long weekend getaway with my brother’s family and for friends in a mountain cottage coming up that we’re all really looking forward to, so there’s that. There will be multiple dogs, we’re gonna light a fire and make bread on sticks and marshmallows, and we’ll have a wonderful view over Saxon Switzerland.
But at least equally important: how are you?
Too little sleep is rough, I was up at midnight tonight so that really resonates with me right now lol. Maybe the kid’ll get comfortable sleeping alone soon so you can get your bed back?
Long weekend, multiple dogs, and nice views though? That sounds fantastic, I hope you enjoy it!
Edit oops: I’m doing okay, actually! I’ve been getting treated for depression and it seems to be working, I’ve been having an easier time kinda dealing with life despite the whole everything.
I also totally have a concert coming up, I’m gonna see my favorite band (Delain) next month and my husband’s gonna gonna drive me so I don’t have to park or stay sober or anything, I’m looking forward to it :D
despite the whole everything
Oh shit, I forgot about the whole everything! We’ve had elections here in Germany and it’s going as you would expect, with fascists making massive gains everywhere, and them there’s the US and the environment and the war in Ukraine (which is not very far away from here), well, the whole everything. We even have a German word for it: Gesamtscheiße (roughly translates to “the overall shit”)
You can and should be very proud for getting help for your depression. Good job on surviving, I’m glad to hear that therapy is working. From what I understand, it’s a never ending fight against an enemy that gets stronger while you blink, so don’t give up. Have a meme:
Have fun with Delian!
