“I know that social cues are hard for you and you are trying your best and I can’t expect you to get it right on the first try, but I will shame you when you do and react like you didn’t even try or did it on purpose.”
“or react like you didnt even try”
tbh, they are often in the same boat with autistic people. normies are allowed to be offended and not be able to make the connection to autism.
they should practice kindness but so should the rest of us.
Thanks for pointing that out. I wanted to edit in something like that, but it felt like rambling.
It’s frustrating when people react badly to what they incorrectly percieve as hostility, but it’s not on them to read my mind and know the full context.
It’s extra frustrating when people know but still get insulted by what they on an intellectual level know isn’t an insult. It’s human nature and it takes practice to manage that.
All in all, people may even both know and be patient but still find my behavior exhausting. And it’s unfair to expect them to bend around me.
This is why I’m annoyed when people protest at any mention of “masking” as if it’s evil. It’s not. It’s just basic courtesy to not confuse or upset people. Just be aware of how much you can do it healthily is all.
What invites me to be resentful is the fact I spend all day every day doing theater to keep these mopes comfortable, and asking the slightest deviation in their behavior is seen as such a huge deal.
I wear a mask all day every day. I constantly push myself to behave in ways unnatural to me, to fit in.
It’s so exhausting. All human interaction is like typing with chopsticks for me.
Whoever considers picky eating a problem can take it up with me, my friend is one, which simply means I get to eat the stuff she doesn’t want to, and she can order something she might not like, knowing I will eat it anyways. It’s a win win
Additional thanks from a fella whose brain reacts to weird textures in my food by gagging or vomiting. It’s so embarrassing, especially around friends.
This is why I can’t do online left wing spaces any more. They talk the talk about ableism, but then its “why can’t you boycott the only food you can eat, just eat something else”, “you could talk to service workers if you wanted to, you just think you’re better than them”.
Then sharing a video of people with their fingers in their ears at a black music festival with a caption calling them racists, when they’re clearly autistic people enjoying the festival but having sensory problems.
I blame the popular understanding/misunderstanding of neurodiversity. People think autism is just a personality type.
And don’t you dare tell a vegan you can’t drink anything with plant milk!
I recently had someone acting high and mighty with me pretending I was a bigot in literally every way to try to win an argument about joking about wealthy people being lizards. They rounded it off by saying I was using big words to bully her because she was a woman. I had no idea she was a woman, and frankly I don’t care because she’s clearly dishonest and ableist AF.
… this just reignited my desire for a boyfriend, but like, one that’s also autistic, so he fucking gets me. We’ll have lunch in perfectly comfortable silence at a busy diner and judge people that talk too loud in public. It’ll be great!
