Be direct in communication when needed, otherwise just don’t.
Do they dislike me for no good reason? If yes: fuck them, I’m awesome!
Do they dislike me because I did something dumb? Let’s talk and let me appologise if I cocked something up for you. My intentions are rarely malicius.
This let’s me live a happy life knowing I didn’t ruin anyone’s day and ignore the rest.
Agreed.
Because of my kind nature it isn’t very often that people dislike me or have a problem with me.
When they do it’s always the same story for 99% of other people. So they just don’t get along with anyone. Can’t people please them all…
A somewhat cheesy quote that helped me a lot is “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don’t like peaches”. I used to try way too hard to be likeable and I agonised over people who didn’t like me.
There was an instance of a colleague being rude and unprofessional to me, and under the framework of “they don’t like me and that’s why they’re being unkind”, it put the onus on me to change, which wasn’t reasonable. It should be possible for people to not like each other in a working relationship while still being respectful and productive.
Kill them with kindness. Be direct and to the point, but make them hate you more because you’re too nice. That way, if they want to talk shit about you, all they can say is that you’re too nice.
As someone else mentioned, if you screwed up, make amends, then the kindness thing.
Avoid them when you can. Clear, minimal, a bit more polite than you would like to be when you can’t. If it’s work related focus on your common goal.
I’d also advise you to take some time to reflect on what makes them dislike you. If you find a lot of people who dislike you for similar reasons you may have to evaluate if you should (and can) change.
