So my family invited me over for Christmas like they do every year. I didnât think it would be a good year but I went anyway. When I showed up they were very nice to me until I came in and they saw that I have earrings and they also noticed that I havenât cut my hair in a while. Then they started acting very weird around me, and whispered to each other. Then when we were eating at the table they asked if Iâm a transvestite. I put my fork down and I said âNo, Iâm not a transvestite. I am a trans girlâ.
My mother cried and got very sad and my father got angry, saying he âdidnât raise his son to be a sissyâ. I responded though by saying: âWho said just because Iâm a trans girl that Iâm a sissy? đŞâ To that he got pissed but couldnât say anything in response. I think they were hoping Iâd be upset or offended, maybe even cry, but I didnât and honestly I expected their behavior. Iâm not upset or hurt, just mildly disappointed in them for not at least trying to be better people.
Iâve known they were transphobic and right leaning for a while and Iâm not surprised at all by their behavior. I kind of thought theyâd get better but itâs not surprising they didnât.
Anyway, I just wanted to share this, I hope you all have a merry Christmas, and please stay safe. Donât hang out with transphobic assholes for Christmas if you can help it.
Props for having the courage, it is up to them whether or not they want to get over their phobia. I hope you have a good life regardless.
Well done for telling them and being strong in the face of such a hostile reaction. Iâm sorry it went like this. Donât let them get you down, and treat yourself well this Christmas. I hope one day they find a way to be more compassionate and mature.
It is mildly disappointing that theyâre like this, I honestly feel more bad for them and how itâll affect them. Other than that though I donât take it personally, I guess since I used to be like them in my beliefs so I know why theyâre like that and it doesnât hurt me. I hope at the very least for their sake they can learn to overcome their bigotry in the future, though I know itâll likely never happen.
By the way, I did leave shortly after the incident. I just got a Tupperware container, packed it full of food for me to eat when I got home, and I got in my car and left.
Sorry girl, but good for you for living your truth anyway! Happy holidays!
Sorry to hear that :/
I think you handled it well.
That sounds really hard, sorry you had to go through that.
Yeah I guess, I donât really feel that bad though, just kind of sorry for them that they canât be better people. Like I said it doesnât surprise me. They think itâs a phase right now. I wonder what theyâll say when I have boobs. Actually Iâm kinda excited to see. I got some good comebacks for whatever they might say đ
