Every group chat seems to die the moment I send 1-2 texts there. Every single one. Old, new, offline friends, online friends, everywhere. What’s going on? Are my jokes bad? Have you ever experienced this? If yes, what was the issue you found out?
This would have been hilarious if nobody had replied…
It’s all in your head dude. Don’t worry about it.
Should we tell him, guys?..
Should we tell him, guys?..
this is not an appropriate time to make a cruel joke.
this person came here harmlessly asking for help.
punching down at someone’s insecurities right when they’re trying to address them is not ok.
If you’re seeking mental help on the internet from random strangers, that might be a problem.
Nah man it’s fine. The joke’s popular and I am sure they didn’t mean it. Thanks though.
I’m going to be honest and try not to be rude. This is only my observation from my perspective and may be wildly wrong. I looked through your comment history. You seem to be polite and communicative. That’s not a bad thing. However, your comments don’t seem very funny or interesting to me. I communicate through humor. I understand that it is subjective, but I’m not often in chats or conversations that awkwardly die out.
Show some more of your personality in what you say. Compliment others. Leave them with questions. Do you think maybe the answer to your question isn’t what you are saying, it’s how you are saying it?
Tough but honest advice. I can relate to needing this advice but I’ve come to accept who I am. People just like sincerity, too. Organic, not shoehorned comments. No compliment fishing, etc… The group you’re chatting with also just may not be your kind of people; you just may not have realized it yet.
Alternatively chat groups do spontaneously die and you may only be consciously aware when it’s you who commented last; but you may not be so aware of the chat groups that died with someone else’s comments.
Maybe your interjecting into a convo and not saying something worth responding to? I would imagine that making a joke in text isn’t that funny because its not spoken its read.
I think this - and the dozens of other reasons - is it.
I’m in a handful of reasonably active group chats, and if one of my absolute banger messages doesn’t get a response, welll… maybe it just wasn’t that good. Not awful in as much that people leave the group en maase, but just not nearly as funny or interesting to other folk as it was to me.
It may be that it was the group chat equivalent of clicking a Lemmy post, thinking “huh, cool”, and moving on.
It may be that the post was so balanced and well presented from most angles, that there isn’t really anything to add.
It could be that my post went against the grain of the flow of conversation or the tastes of the majority of the group, and people chose to ignore it rather than tell me to fuck off.
It could be that people’s lives have run away with them, nobody gave any serious mind to the post when they read it, and it would just be a bit weird replying twelve or 24 hours after the post.
Any which way - if the group is still active, and you’ve not been called out publically or privately, then people likely don’t give a toss and have moved on - no harm no foul.
Holy shit, the sociology of group chats is complex as fuck judging from these comments. I hate them too much to ever have stopped and wondered why I hate them.
My suggestion would echo Bukowski: Don’t try. It’s perfectly fine to only respond in the group chat when something needs to be coordinated. Everything else one on one communication is better for. And if you do feel like interacting, don’t force it. Silence is never wrong. On the contrary.
I don’t even do group chats for party invitations. I just text everyone individually. It’s a little more work but it’s so much nicer, as far as I’m concerned.
Then again, I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man and without a doubt out of thouch.
I was born in the 90s. I’m a grumpy old man
I feel my bones turning to dust reading this.
When it comes to digital communication, I think I might be a dinosaur. I have never used Discord or TikTok. My group chat experience as a teenager was on IRC.
Culturally I am also out of touch - I come from a time when young people were reliably progressive, and where there did not seem to be a huge political gender divide. I feel weirdly removed from those born ten years after me, who are now around 20.
Sure, I’m in a few group chats on WhatsApp and Facebook Messenger, and I know these situations in the abstract. But if OP is a teenager they probably come from a completely different world than I do.
I’m just not with it any more, you know. I wear an onion in my belt.
That said, I of course agree completely that I am the embodiment of youth in most aspects of life!
