Hi. I’m new to Lemmy so I thought I’d break the ice with this introductory post. I’m from Romania. Please be respectful, thank you. ^^

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  1. I mean that’s pretty crazy, what an intro. You said you’re from Romania, but you’re posting in a Canadian Lemmy server. Are you living in Canada now, or is this just where you found the community?

  2. What does your future look like? Babies are a lot of work; do you plan on studying more and going to work alongside, or …?

  3. You mentioned in a previous comment the condom broke and morning after pill didn’t work. How did you feel back then? Were you comfortable going through with it? Tell us more about your husband’s situation too

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  1. I found this place on Reddit Alternatives… didn’t know it was Canadian. 2. I plan on definitely going to university. That’s a non-negotiable, to both my in-laws and parents, lol. My in-laws have the money, so with hired help (+ “the village” of course) & efficient time management, I’m confident it’ll be fine. There are people who work full-time and still attend university after all… 3. Honestly I felt nothing. It didn’t feel real to me until I got the positive pregnancy test. But when I sent my husband to buy the pill, I also had him buy prenatal vitamins, 'cause if I were to be pregnant, I preferred to do it properly. My husband is a 2nd year business administration student and also works for his family’s business. I met him at high school (we were both students at the same high school at the time).
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On point 1:

This particular community (AMA) was created on lemmy.ca, which is an instance of lemmy hosted in Canada, but everyone is free to use it! We have a lot of general communities like that, in addition to the ones specific to Canada

The user was likely just curious if you moved, you’re fine to post here or any lemmy.ca community :)

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Are you happy with your overall situation or did it happen by force/accident?

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I’m happy. Pregnancy happened due to contraception failure (condom broke, morning after pill didn’t work). We got married 'cause I didn’t want to have a baby out of a wedlock (with parental and juridical consent - you have to provide a strong reason why you want to get married if you’re under 18 - minimum is 16 - and my reason was that I was pregnant with medical proof).

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Are you looking forward to eventually being a young, hip, grandma?

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Haven’t really thought about that… I mean who knows if the kid will even have kids or if they’re going to have them really late in life, lol (valid choices). But sure, if it happens that’s cool.

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Just want to point out that there’s a Reddit user with the same name that was posting on Reddit 8 years ago and drinking gin at the time

https://old.reddit.com/user/oneautumnday

So I might take this AMA with a grain of salt…

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What’s the correlation…? A person who was active almost a decade ago on an entirely different site happened to have the same somewhat generic username as me… and you think it’s the same person? One of the biggest reaches I’ve ever read. My account name was chosen because I created it on an October day…😭

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The same username is used by the same person on other social medias, just saying 🤷

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This is absolutely not a rule & not something I even do + I don’t understand trying to hard to discredit me by making all these assumptions as if I’m spreading propaganda or trying to scam people…

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It’s a pretty generic username. I think this is a stretch.

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Not a question, just words of encouragement from a dad who was in a similar situation. My oldest daughter was born when I was 20; I was in my third semester of university at the time. We managed to make it work, but my wife basically dropped her studies and became a full-time mom. It was a bit hard financially during university, but I managed to make it work and I graduated on time with pretty good grades, and I found a pretty good job right after. We were already planning on having kids (obviously after our studies), so we decided to keep going and we had a second daughter 2 years later (I was still in university at the time).

My oldest turns 15 next month, and she’s growing up to be a very well-adjusted, gorgeous woman. She makes me very proud. Well, all 4 of my daughters make me proud (yes, I’m still with their mom. We married after university; there’s no “children out of wedlock” stigma here).

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Thank you & happy it turned out well for you. 🤍

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